#64 Unpause Your Marriage with Lee Baucom

NOTE! Video available on YouTube. In this episode, I sit down with marriage coach and former therapist Lee Baucom to talk about what really causes marriages to break down—and how to prevent it. Lee explains that most couples unknowingly “hit the pause button” after committing, turning their focus to life demands and building habits of disconnection. We unpack the three levels of connection—physical, emotional, and spiritual—and why love alone doesn’t sustain a marriage without ongoing attention. We also explore complacency, resentment, and what one partner can do when the other isn’t motivated, including inviting connection rather than chasing it. Finally, we discuss expectations, values-based responding, self-regulation during conflict, and shifting from competition to a team mindset, plus where to find Lee’s Save The Marriage and Unpause Your Marriage resources.Un-Pause App: http://UnPauseYourMarriage.comSave The Marriage System: http://SaveTheMarriage.com/systemMy books: http://SaveTheMarriage.com/books00:00 Lee Baucom00:11 Introduction01:10 Lee's Background & Origin Story03:24 Why Marriages Fail: The Pause Button11:48 The Three Levels of Connection19:10 Rebuilding Connection: One Person Can Start27:13 Attachment Theory & Personal Healing28:07 Expectations & The Root of Frustration32:49 Marriage as a Team35:44 Self-Regulation & Responding from Values45:21 Conflict That Serves the Relationship47:13 Discovering Your Values52:28 Wrap-Up & Resources Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.