65. OCD Isn't What You Think It Is — A Conversation with Bonnie Young

In this episode, we talked about OCD and scrupulosity. OCD is a difficult subject because the term is often thrown around as an adjective to describe perfectionistic tendencies. But true obsessive compulsive disorder is so different than the stereotypes may lead people to believe, and it can be a really serious mental health issue  — one that is undoubtedly affecting someone you know and love. It can also be especially hard on missionaries.So many people who have OCD—especially religiously-themed OCD—don’t know what to call their pain and often have only religious language or explanations for what they’re feeling.  That can lead to years of deep and unnecessary suffering. And that gets to the primary reason we’re doing this episode — we hope that listeners who are suffering from OCD, or their loved ones, will hear this and recognize something in themselves that they didn’t quite understand. We really want them to know that they’re not bad or corrupt or evil, and that there is light at the end of the tunnel.Bonnie is a marriage and family therapist, mother of two, and author of several academic articles on religion and mental health. She has a bachelor’s degree in history with an emphasis in Mormon women’s history and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy, both from BYU. Bonnie’s currently based in Seattle, and specializes in treating clients with anxiety, religious OCD / scrupulosity, and sexual disorders.Bonnie was amazing, and she really helped articulate some of the most difficult challenges that OCD presents, and ways to start addressing it.—Recommended Resources—Self-help:“The Mindfulness Workbook for OCD,” which you can find on Amazon.“Brain Lock,” by Jeffrey Schwartz, also available on AmazonChildren:“What to do when your brain gets stuck”, workbook for kids which again, you can find on Amazon.Hey Warrior, by Karen Young, great illustrations, our kids love this one. Podcasts:Bonnie recommended “The OCD Stories.” Richard Ostler has also done several podcasts related to OCD, and you can go to listenlearnandlove.org and head to the mental health section.Parenting Survival Podcast by Natasha Daniels focuses on kids with OCDEducational videos:“Madeofmilllions.com”“Nathan Peterson OCD.” has a series of educational vioeos on OCDWe also loved the movie about OCD for kids called “Unstuck,” which you can find at “ocdkidsmovie.com”And for conferences, camps, and other general resources, the International OCD Foundation has it all. Perhaps most importantly, you can find a therapists who specialize in OCD in your city on their website @ iocdf.orgTickets for Restore 2026 are now available, and we have a new format we think you're going to love. Get details here!