65. When Hurry and Control Are Actually Grief in Disguise

If you've ever thought grief was only for funerals and major loss, this episode will change how you see your own daily life. Bryson kicks off a new 8-episode season of Honey for Your Heart with her friend Randy Hemphill — congregational care pastor, counselor, and author of We Grieve Our Losses — as they lay the foundation for a season all about learning to grieve well. Together they unpack what grief actually is, why most of us were never taught how to do it, and the two most common ways we avoid it instead: hurry and control. This one might sting a little, in the best way. Take Randy's control assessment linked below, be honest with yourself about where you land, and if this hit home, send it to a friend who needs permission to slow down too. Chapters: 00:00 Why Grief Matters 00:38 Meet Randy and the Book 02:30 Defining Grief 03:46 Why We Need a Blueprint 05:08 Garage of the Heart 07:09 Grief as a Lost Discipline 08:39 Two Toxins Hurry and Control 09:12 Hurry and the Noisy Soul 11:36 Silence Solitude and Facing Loss 13:11 Mary and Martha Identity Check 16:07 Stillness in Grief 17:38 Grace Over Striving 18:26 Control and Avoidance 20:48 Outward vs Inward Control 23:09 Jacob Wrestles for Surrender 26:25 Practical Control Assessment 28:16 Prayer and Hope to Dream 30:40 Next Week What Am I Grieving Links: 📖 Get the book, We Grieve Our Losses by Randy Hemphill: https://randyhemphill.com/books 📝 This week's Control Assessment: https://randyhemphill.com/resources ✅Follow Randy: https://www.instagram.com/hemphillrandy/ ✅ Follow Clover + Bee: https://www.instagram.com/shopcloverandbee/ ✅ Follow Honey for Your Heart: https://www.instagram.com/honey_for_your_heart/