67. Call me rude, I don’t care aka the double standard people-pleasers are fighting against to be seen as kind people, and what I do about it instead

50% OFF 1:1 SOUND HEALING SESSIONS — The key to authenticity is clearing the crap so you can hear your intuition louder. Come back to center, clear what’s holding you back, and align your energy with the power of sound. Sale is for virtual sessions only. Apply here for a session. Quote that you saw this to claim the discount. Valid until September 1st 2026.—————If you’ve ever worried that setting a boundary, putting your needs first, or not responding right away will make you seem rude, this episode is for you. I’m talking about the double standard people-pleasers are constantly fighting against: the pressure to be endlessly accommodating in order to be seen as kind. I share how this pattern shows up in my own life, why trying to control what other people think will never bring you peace, and what I’m learning to do instead. We’re flipping the definition of “rude” on its head and looking at what it really means to choose yourself.In this episode, we talk about:The double standard between being kind and being considered rudeWhy people-pleasers are so afraid of being misunderstoodThe fear of disappointing people or becoming the subject of negative gossipHow people-pleasing teaches you to put your needs asideThe ways you inconvenience yourself to keep other people comfortableWhy other people’s opinions have less to do with you than you thinkHow someone can decide you’re rude no matter how kind you areWhy setting boundaries and prioritizing yourself can feel uncomfortableLearning to finish what you’re doing instead of immediately responding to other peopleHow to get more comfortable with being uncomfortableMy simple two-step formula for breaking people-pleasing habitsUsing awareness and daily commitment to create new patternsA card pull and a heart chakra sound healing moment—————Come say hi on socials! I’m @karolina.autumn—————Subscribing or leaving a review is a simple way to support the show and help it reach the right people. I appreciate it more than you know.