67. People Pleasing, Anxiety and the Belief "I'm Not Good Enough"

Do you ever feel like you're walking on eggshells around people… constantly overthinking what you said… or trying to keep everyone happy so nobody gets upset with you? Maybe you replay conversations in your head. Maybe you feel responsible for fixing everyone's problems. Or maybe no matter how much you give, it still never feels like enough. If that sounds familiar, this episode will feel very personal. Because the truth is, people pleasing and anxiety in relationships rarely start with other people. They usually begin with one quiet belief running in the background: "I'm not good enough." In this episode, I take you inside a real coaching session with a client who was feeling anxious and overwhelmed in their friendships. What we uncovered together is something so many people struggle with, the deep fear of disappointing others. And when that belief is driving your behaviour, you end up: • Overexplaining yourself • Managing other people's emotions • Trying to control situations that were never yours to control But once the inner belief shifts, everything else begins to change. Your relationships feel different. Your confidence grows. And the pressure to constantly prove yourself starts to disappear. This episode will help you understand why people pleasing happens — and how inner game work is what truly changes your outer world. What You'll Learn in This Episode • Why people pleasing is often rooted in fear, not kindness • The hidden belief that fuels anxiety in friendships and relationships • How childhood patterns shape the way you seek approval today • Why trying to control other people's emotions creates exhaustion and stress • How shifting your inner narrative changes your relationships naturally • The mindset shift that helps you move from fear to self-trust   Work With Me 1:1 If you recognised yourself in this episode and you're ready to go deeper, I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching this month. This work isn't about fixing you, because you're not broken. It's about slowing things down enough to understand what's really happening underneath your reactions, so you can respond differently with more calm, clarity, and confidence. If you're curious about working together, you can reach out through the contact form in the show notes and we'll simply have a conversation to see if it's the right fit. Remember Most people spend their lives trying to control the outside world. But the real shift happens internally. When your inner game becomes stronger, your outer world starts to change too. And that's where real freedom begins.   This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com