#67 You’re Not Who They Think You Are — And That’s Okay

You’ve outgrown the version of you they still expect. Here’s what to do when you feel misread — and how to stay anchored in who you’re becoming, even when others don’t understand.What do you do when you’ve grown — but the people around you still treat you like the old you?This episode speaks to the disorienting ache of being misread — when people relate to who you used to be, not who you are now. It’s a silent struggle for high-capacity professionals who are evolving quickly, but still being defined by legacy roles, outdated expectations, or past patterns.You’ll learn what’s really happening when others don’t catch up — and how to stay rooted in alignment rather than reverting for comfort.In this episode, Julie Holly breaks down:What it means to be misread — and why it happens during recalibrationThe psychological concept of predictive dissonance and how it applies to identity shiftsWhy overexplaining can reinforce misalignmentHow to recognize when you’re re-performing the old self for the sake of others’ comfortA powerful story about Kevin Kelly (Wired Magazine) and the cost of building before others understandA micro-recalibration you can use to stay anchored in real time — and help those you lead do the sameToday’s Micro-Recalibration:Name one area where you’ve been misread — and instead of compensating, stay rooted in who you are becoming.And if you lead a team, family, or company: choose one person under your leadership who’s outgrowing an old role, and affirm who they’re becoming — not just who they’ve been.Being misunderstood is often a sign you’re right on time.Don’t shrink for their comfort. Stay aligned.RESOURCES:Episode #30 The Faith to Keep Going — When the Struggle Still Shows UpExplore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you→ Learn about The Recalibration Cohort→ Join the next Friday Recalibration Live experience → Take your listening deeper! Subscribe to The Weekly Recalibration Companion to receive reflections and extensions to each week's podcast episodes.→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights→ Download the Misalignment Audit→ Subscribe to the weekly newsletter→ Books to read  (Tidy categories on Amazon- I've read/listened to each recommended title.)→  One link to all things...