68: Attachment Styles, ADHD Labels and Healing Self Abandonment through Depth Psychology

Healing is not about perfection; it is about remembering who you are beneath the labels, diagnoses, and stories.Depth psychotherapist Vanessa Bennett joins Lisa Marie Rankin to explore the messy middle between spiritual bypassing and wallowing, why self-obsession can keep us stuck, and how service and community help us rise above our own drama. They unpack anxious attachment and dating culture, the TikTok-driven rise in ADHD self-diagnosis, and how our nervous systems are being hijacked by a world built on dysregulation. Vanessa shares her depth psychology view of the Self with a capital S, explaining why boundaries are sacred micro-moments of self-remembrance, and how her book, “The Motherhood Myth,” maps the myths, motherhood, and patriarchy that keep women isolated and ashamed.This conversation cuts through labels, questions why partnership is so often pursued from wounded places, and reframes healing as a return to inner balance between masculine and feminine. It reminds us that nothing is wrong with us; we are remembering who we are in a world designed to keep us fragmented.Connect with Vanessa:https://www.vanessabennett.com/https://www.instagram.com/vanessasbennett/Connect with Lisa:Join me on Substack: This Enchanted LifeIf you’re craving deeper connection, mythic insight, and soulful storytelling—step into This Enchanted Life, my Substack community where you’ll be guided to reconnect with your imagination, your creativity, and the archetypal wisdom that lives deep in your bones.Substack: This Enchanted LifeBook: The Goddess SolutionInstagram: @lisamarierankinWebsite: lisamarierankin.comRate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts:If your inner feminine is connecting with the Goddess School podcast, I’d love to hear from you. Your feedback helps me support you on your sacred journey.Scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Be sure to let me know what you resonated with the most in this episode! And if you haven’t done so already, give the podcast a follow, so you’ll be notified when a new episode comes out. Get full access to This Enchanted Life at lisamarierankin.substack.com/subscribe