#68 Identity Lag: You Can't Become Your Future Self Carrying The Old Identity

Send us Fan MailThis episode explores why life transitions—graduation, empty nesting, sobriety, loss, and reinvention—can feel disorienting, even when they’re positive. Through neuroscience, psychology, and cultural insight, we unpack how identity shifts happen, why we often self-sabotage during growth, and how reclaiming simple rituals can help us move through change with more clarity and connection.What We Cover:Why endings disrupt identity (not just circumstances)The “identity lag” and how long change really takesNeuroplasticity and how the brain forms a new self-conceptThe “upper limit” problem and self-sabotage patternsWhy modern society struggles with transitionsThe loss of rites of passage and its impactHow technology fragments attention during key life momentsSimple ways to create personal rituals for changeKey Takeaway:Endings are not just something to get through—they are something to mark. When we intentionally acknowledge transitions, we help our brain and nervous system integrate the new identity more fully.Call to Action:Take 5 minutes today to create a simple ritual to honor something you’re letting go of.Facebook-Just Count Me InInstagram- Just Count Me InInfluential Women VerifiedIW BadgeBuzzsprout-Just Count Me InThank you for joining me!If this episode resonates, please share it with a friend who needs a little inspiration today!