68. Fixing the Fight Before It Starts: The SHIT Method That Actually Works

Ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “How did that go so wrong so fast?” In this episode, I’m breaking down my go-to tool for untangling communication breakdowns before they blow up into full-on fights. It’s called the SHIT Method—Said, Heard, Intention, Try Again—and no, it’s not just a cheeky name. This is the exact process I teach my clients to slow down the spiral, make sense of what actually happened in the conversation, and get to the root of the disconnect without blame or shame.We’ll go through real-life examples (like the text that came off too cold or the “Can you slow down?” that turned into a trust issue), and I’ll show you how to clean up the mess in a way that brings you closer—not further apart.You might want to listen if:You find yourself saying “That’s not what I meant!” more than you’d likeYou or your partner tend to get defensive (fast)You replay arguments in your head, trying to figure out where it went wrongYou shut down or lash out instead of saying what you really feelYou want a clear, compassionate way to repair miscommunication in real timeWORK WITH ME🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn — see if the Fall 2026 Cohort is the right fit for youReady Now? Join the Speak Honest AcademyApply for FREE Podcast Coaching with JennAsk your Coach a question — it might get featured on the showLEARN MOREGrab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of AttachmentVisit www.speak-honest.com to learn moreWatch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx TalkSTAY CONNECTEDJoin our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honestEnjoying the show? A review helps other women find us!DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for acc...