68. Fixing the Fight Before It Starts: The SHIT Method That Actually Works

Ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “How did that go so wrong so fast?” In this episode, I’m breaking down my go-to tool for untangling communication breakdowns before they blow up into full-on fights. It’s called the SHIT Method—Said, Heard, Intention, Try Again—and no, it’s not just a cheeky name. This is the exact process I teach my clients to slow down the spiral, make sense of what actually happened in the conversation, and get to the root of the disconnect without blame or shame.We’ll go through real-life examples (like the text that came off too cold or the “Can you slow down?” that turned into a trust issue), and I’ll show you how to clean up the mess in a way that brings you closer—not further apart.You might want to listen if:You find yourself saying “That’s not what I meant!” more than you’d likeYou or your partner tend to get defensive (fast)You replay arguments in your head, trying to figure out where it went wrongYou shut down or lash out instead of saying what you really feelYou want a clear, compassionate way to repair miscommunication in real timeFIND OUT MORE!Join the Speak Honest Academy Ask your Coach a question >> ASK HEREGrab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of AttachmentApply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn moreFollow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honestLike the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable f...