68: Whose Definition of Success Are You Chasing?

Whose Definition of Success Are You Chasing? Most people can tell you what success means to them without hesitating. But ask where that definition came from - when they formed it, under what circumstances, and whether it still holds up against who they actually are now - and the answer gets much harder. Because most makers are working from a definition of success they absorbed rather than consciously chose. From family. From culture. From an industry or peer group at a formative moment. And that inherited picture has been running quietly in the background ever since, directing decisions, generating guilt when you fall short of it, and producing a hollow feeling even when you reach it. This episode is the direct follow-on from last week's conversation about knowing what you actually value. Because knowing your values is only half the work. The other half is making sure the version of success you're building toward is genuinely built on those values - and not on an outdated assumption you've never stopped to examine. Drawing on research into goal self-concordance and the psychology of identity, this episode examines why inherited definitions of success are so difficult to question, what it costs to keep executing toward one that was never really yours, and what it actually looks like to build a definition that holds up against your current reality. If you've ever worked hard toward something and felt nothing when you got there, or wondered why progress doesn't feel like progress, this episode is probably going to show you exactly why. The Ten Principles for a Stronger Creative Practice download walks through the structured values and success definition work that goes alongside this episode and last week's. It's free. Link to The 10 Principles: http://www.virginialeighstudio.com/learn. The VirginiaLeighStudio Home page: https://www.virginialeighstudio.com Chapters 00:00 - Where Did Your Definition of Success Come From? 02:39 - The Einstein Starting Point: When Your Thinking Needs to Change 03:49 - Absorbed vs. Chosen: Why Most Definitions Were Never Really Yours 05:27 - Why This Matters Especially for Working Makers 06:27 - What Absorbed Definitions Actually Look Like in Practice 08:01 - Goal Self-Concordance: What the Research Says About Satisfaction and Success 09:17 - The Connection Between Values and Your Definition of Success 10:08 - A Personal Account: Executing Perfectly Toward the Wrong Definition 14:58 - Why Questioning Your Definition Feels Like Questioning Your Identity 16:09 - The Social Validation Problem: Why We Drift Back to Familiar Territory 17:16 - Your Definition of Success Should Be a Living Thing 21:05 - The Question Worth Carrying This Week The 10 Principles for a Stronger Creative Practice Get them HERE The Fabric & Fiber Studio: https://members.virginialeighstudio.com/thestudio Connect with Virginia: Website = https://www.virginialeighstudio.com Instagram = https://www.instagram.com/virginialeighstudio/ Facebook = https://www.facebook.com/virginialeighstudio