68. Why You Keep Over-Explaining, Over-Doing and Over-Staying (and how to stop)

If you're exhausted from giving too much, fixing too much, and staying too long… this episode will show you what's really driving it - and how to take your energy back. "I'm so tired of wasting time."  That's how this conversation started. But here's the truth… it wasn't about time at all. It was about the hidden habit so many of us are stuck in, overexplaining, overgiving, and over-participating in situations that were never ours to carry in the first place. Maybe you recognise it… You answer once, but then you explain it again. You say no, but then soften it with a long justification. You're ready to leave, but you stay, just in case. Not because you have to… But because something in you feels safer staying than leaving. In this episode, I walk you through a real client session where we uncovered what was really going on underneath the frustration and how one small shift changed everything. Because this isn't about becoming cold or uncaring. It's about recognising where your energy is leaking… and learning how to choose differently. If you've ever felt drained, resentful, or stretched too thin, this episode will help you see why. And more importantly… what to do about it. What You'll Learn • Why overexplaining is often rooted in fear, not logic • How to catch yourself before you slip into "fixer mode" • The hidden emotional drivers behind people-pleasing habits • How to pause in the moment and ask, "Is this mine to carry?" • Simple ways to say no (without guilt or over-explaining) • How to stop managing everyone else and start leading yourself   1:1 Coaching with me If this episode hit close to home, this is exactly the work we do together. I have one space open this month for private coaching. This is a calm, supportive space to understand your reactions, shift your habits, and start showing up in a way that feels clear, confident, and in control. Contact me through my website https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/ or you can DM me @jennymcoaching   What my clients say "Working with Jenny helped me realise how much energy I was giving away without even noticing. I feel calmer, clearer, and finally back in control of my time." If you're enjoying the podcast, I'd love if you left a review or shared it with someone who needs to hear this.   This is your reminder, you don't need to do more, explain more, or carry more. You just need the awareness to choose differently. And I'm right here with you every step of the way.