69. It's OK to Enjoy Yourself During Estrangement

It's the festive season – always a complicated time for people experiencing estrangement from family. The holidays are full of friendship, gift-giving, celebrating and creating memories. But for parents rejected by one or more of their adult children, it can feel wrong to participate. Having a good time feels … unseemly. How can parents enjoy themselves when such an important relationship is in trouble? Don't they miss their children? Don't they love them? In this episode, Tina suggests that it's not only okay, but healthy and important, for rejected parents to enjoy themselves during estrangement. The holidays are a good time to practice this. But throughout the year, if you're too sad to participate in good times and creating happy memories with others, you're adding to your pain and loss. According to Tina, you deserve better. She outlines three typical reasons why parents find it hard to let loose, and counters them with common sense and compassion. This inspiring episode will give you permission to go ahead and enjoy yourself this holiday season, and beyond.