7. Every Mommy Has Those Days...

Some women, from the time they’re little girls, were born to be nurturing, loving, natural mothers. That… was never me. Before I got pregnant, I had no intentions of being a mother. I did not want to be a mother. I was scared I was gonna suck at it, I was afraid of repeating mistakes, I was scared of perpetuating cycles. Why? Because I had a very complicated relationship with my mother, and one of the hardest things in the world is to have a complicated, toxic, acidic relationship with the woman who gave you life.Today, I’m getting real with you about the struggles and fears I have when it comes to raising my daughter. I’m laying it all out and talking about my own deeply complicated mother-daughter relationship and what it feels like to see your amazing messages of mommying encouragement—even when I feel like they couldn’t be further from the truth.Tune in and listen to episode seven of Mamaste with Tanika Ray.  I’m breaking down why it’s so important for me to not repeat history when parenting my daughter, how I’m avoiding the “copy & paste” style of parenting, and the beauty and the irony in how alike we both are.In This Episode, You Will Learn:In my 20s, I was completely selfish, completely self focused, and completely tunnel visioned on what it was that I wanted to accomplish in the world (03:35)The very vivid memory I have of the start of my rebellion against my mother—and why I’m so dead set against reliving that cycle (04:31)My relationship with my daughter is better when she's in school and when she's stimulated elsewhere (09:45)It totally sucks having to raise yourself! (15:00)We are flexible, movable, malleable, evolving people, and unexpected times, without notice, are going to always happen. (19:57)Remember, when you don’t think you’re going to make it through the day: Inhale through the nose, hold for four seconds. And exhale. Inhale for four seconds and hold. And exhale. As we try to elongate those breaths, inhale for four and hold… And exhale. (28:07)Let’s Connect!WebsiteFacebookInstagramYouTubeTwitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.