7 Strategies to Get Out of Your Own Way

In our last episode, we met Selena, a leader struggling with self-doubt and hesitancy to take bold action in her organization. Jay spoke with Kenston Henderson Sr. about how leaders can overcome these internal roadblocks and create cultures of confidence and psychological safety. In this solo episode, Jay breaks down what he calls natural programs—deeply ingrained mental patterns that hold us back from taking courageous action. Drawing from neuroscience and behavioral psychology, he identifies four primary programs: negative bias, the need for acceptance, the feeling of "never enough," and self-absorption. These patterns influence how we approach decisions, risks, and our own potential. To counteract these limiting programs, Jay shares seven actionable strategies to help you break free from self-sabotage and step into your full potential. From meditation and pattern interrupts to gratitude and acts of kindness, these tools will help you rewire your mindset and take bolder, more effective action in your career and life. If you’ve ever felt like your own worst enemy—hesitating, second-guessing, or playing small—this episode provides a clear roadmap to shift your thinking and move forward with confidence. Notable Quotes  "Our brains are wired to focus on the negative, but we don’t have to stay stuck in that pattern." — Jay Abbasi  "The need for acceptance is deeply ingrained in us, but true leadership comes from embracing your unique perspective." — Jay Abbasi "You perform at your best when you stop focusing on yourself and shift your attention to serving others." — Jay Abbasi Resources and Links Jay AbbasiWebsite: https://jayabbasi.me/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayabbasi/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayabbasi_/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejayabbasi/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jayabbasipodcast Join Us Next Time In Monday’s episode, Jay introduces Laura, a professional who has lost her sense of fulfillment at work. Feeling drained and unmotivated, she’s been searching for ways to reignite her passion but isn’t sure where to start. Jay will be joined by Dean Craig, the Business Service Director at Wilmette Workforce Partnership and host of All in a Day’s Work, to explore how to rediscover purpose, shift perspectives, and build a career that feels meaningful again. If you’ve ever felt disengaged at work or struggled to find joy in your daily routine, don’t miss this insightful conversation. Stay inspired, stay resilient, and stay connected to what truly matters.