70: The Secrets of Self Doubt No One Tells You About

Have you been feeling self doubt lately? J.Go breaks down three times she's felt self doubt and what she did to overcome her doubts and fears.    * Connect with J.Go on E-Mail: [email protected]  * Become a Beta Tester for my Busy BCB Program: https://www.jgofitlife.com/offers/QJWV6cc9/checkout    - If you're interested on being a guest on this podcast, please fill out this form: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfBeYYPBCUeIVFG1N0u0wBqYEMzLRvAYn8uBRMTkrwdEBoksw/viewform?usp=sf_link    - Sometimes, people only show their successes and don't show the whole picture, which was likely filled with a lot of self doubt. J.Go wants to be vulnerable and share times along her journey when she felt self doubt, and how she overcame those feelings to level up.    When J.Go quit her job without having a plan - She thought: can I really do this on my own? These feelings came up over and over again during the course of her first year coaching.  - How did she work through the doubt? - First of all, she was fortunate enough to have emotional support and encouragement from both of her parents - She walked through the doubt, meaning: She thought about the fear, doubt, and anxiety she felt when the fear came up. She was so afraid of failure, but what would actually happen if she failed? She could always go back to a job. - What if this isn't the "right" thing for her? Well, maybe it would open her eyes to new opportunities. Maybe she will meet someone who will lead her to her next step.  - Taking that  next step is telling God or the Universe that you trust the plan, and that you trust yourself.  - The next step can be a small one, such as making yourself a short morning routine, setting a boundary, etc.  - Walking through self doubt helped her realize what could happen really wasn't that bad. Even if it was a trainwreck, it was better that she at least tried.    When J.Go hosted her first Go.Retreat - She compared herself to a lot of people who have already hosted multiple retreats - What did she do to help self doubt? - Self Reflection: Look at a time in your life when you were afraid of something and it all worked out. When is a time when you doubted yourself, and you proved yourself wrong?  - Celebrate your achievements so far. They wouldn't have happened if you let self doubt get in the way.  - Instead of getting caught up in comparison, she decided to learn from them. - She reached out asking for mentorship and it was invaluable.  - She thought to herself, why not you? Why not?  - If you don't want to reach out for mentorship, you can scroll back to their very first instagram post, or their first video or blog. It helps to see their growth and that everyone starts from the beginning.    Taking a social media break - She had fears, "What if no one cares?". It was her ego talking. - What if she can't run a successful business without Instagram? - She realized that fear itself wasn't a good enough reason to stay on social media and continue going at the pace that she was.    - what if you can't run a successful business without posting on instagram everyday and sharing your life?  - The people that get it, the people who connect with her. - She went back to what really matters, her values.  - What could she control? She could control how much she was on social media.  - Getting clear on her values was her first big step. Decide what matters to you. What do you value? What are your goals? - If something could help you reach your goals, then do it! - If you knew you wouldn't fail, would you do it? Then take that step.  - It's worth more to try and fail.