71: Developing Your Bossed-Up Identity and Losing the Martyrdom, with Emilie Aries

"By taking that first leadership step--that boss move-- the door then opened to identity expansion, to see myself as actually capable of garnering support and capable of commanding respect."  - Emilie Aries I've found in working with and training thousands of professional women around the world, that there can be what I call a "perfectionistic overfunctioning" tendency that exhausts and demoralizes us, and even a "martyrdom mindset" (as my Finding Brave guest today calls it) that women experience frequently. You may not think there is a way to avoid it, but thankfully, there is a way to overcome it. Today's guest has made it her mission to help women keep martyrdom and burnout at bay, and doing so starts by developing a "bossed up" identity . Emilie Aries is a nationally recognized speaker, writer, podcaster, and the Founder and CEO of Bossed Up, an innovative personal and professional training organization that helps women craft sustainable careers. Emilie is a political organizer turned award-winning women's leadership consultant. She has helped hundreds navigate career transition and prevent burnout. Her TED talk, The Power of No, shows how to set healthy boundaries and invest in sustainable long-term achievement. Her forthcoming book, Bossed Up: A Grown Woman's Guide To Getting Your Sh*t Together helps women step up as the boss of their life and assertively design a sustainable career path. After co-hosting the HowStuffWorks podcast, Stuff Mom Never Told You in 2017, Emilie launched her own podcast, Bossed Up, to break down listener career conundrums, interview expert guests, and deliver boss tips to listener's earbuds each week. Emilie also writes as a regular contributor at Forbes, and is a sought-after speaker at companies, conferences, and universities across the country. As Emilie shows by using examples from her own personal life, to beat martyrdom and burnout it's imperative to develop a community of courage, and not just one of support. This is why her message goes so well with what we talk about each week here on Finding Brave. To learn more about today's guest, visit: https://bossedup.org/