71. What Do You Really Want? How to Find Your Way Back to Yourself

What Do You Really Want? How to Find Your Way Back to YourselfWe often think desire is something to suppress.Something selfish. Indulgent. Even irresponsible.But what if your deepest desires aren't pulling you away from the life you're meant to live... what if they're pointing you back to it?In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend Dr. Chrissie Ott, founder of Joy Point Solutions and host of the Solving for Joy podcast, for a conversation about one of the most misunderstood forces in our lives: desire. Together, we explore how reconnecting with your desires can lead to greater integrity, deeper joy, and a more authentic relationship with yourself. We also unpack the difference between desires rooted in conditioning versus those that emerge from your deepest values, and why learning to trust yourself is one of the most important practices of all.In this episode, we discuss:Why desire isn't selfish and how it can become a compass for your lifeThe difference between social conditioning, biological programming, and authentic desireHow to discern which desires are aligned with your valuesWhy so many high achievers lose touch with what they truly wantThe relationship between desire, integrity, gratitude, and joyPractical ways to reconnect with yourself through curiosity and awarenessChapters:00:00 Why Desire Matters More Than You Think00:40 Desire as a Compass for an Authentic Life02:36 The Connection Between Desire, Joy & Integrity06:05 Where Do Your Desires Really Come From?12:41 Material Desires, Spirituality & Conscious Choice17:16 How We Lose Touch With What We Really Want22:23 Desire as a Path Back to Yourself23:17 How to Desire What You Already Have26:59 Reconnecting With Joy in Everyday Life31:59 How Fear & Cynicism Block Joy and Desire35:33 How to Listen to Your Desires With IntegrityAbout Dr. Chrissie OttDr. Chrissie Ott is a double board-certified physician in Internal Medicine and Pediatrics, founder of Joy Point Solutions, and host of the Solving for Joy podcast. Through coaching, speaking, and teaching, she helps physicians, creatives, and purpose-driven professionals reconnect with joy, meaning, and sustainable fulfillment in both work and life.Learn more about Dr. Chrissie Ott:https://joypointsolutions.com/Listen to the Solving for Joy Podcast:www.solvingforjoy.comFollow Dr. Chrissie Ott on Instagram:www.instagram.com/chrissieottmdHow to work with me: https://www.calderonco.org/workwithmeAbout me:I'm Dr. Vanessa Calderón, a Harvard-trained physician, Master Coach, and leadership expert with over 20 years of experience. My clients create meaningful results fast because we combine neuroscience, psychology, and proven coaching strategies to get right to the heart of what drives transformation.I work with leaders, entrepreneurs, doctors, and other professionals who want to elevate their performance, create lasting impact, and live a well-rounded, fulfilling life without burnout.This episode explores how to reconnect with your desires, distinguish authentic desire from social conditioning, and use self-awareness, integrity, and self-trust to create a more joyful, fulfilling, and authentic life.