72: Emotional Intelligence for Kids with ADHD with Stephanie Pinto

What is emotional intelligence, and how does it relate to ADHD? If you've ever wondered about emotional intelligence for our children, then you definitely want to tune in to this episode.  Stephanie Pinto is an emotional intelligence author, speaker, and coach. She specializes in helping parents to create an emotionally intelligent family. She is a certified emotional intelligence specialist. She's also a pediatric anxiety therapist, and she has practiced as a speech pathologist for 10 years.  She supports parents in learning how to manage their emotions, frustrations, and stress so that they are happier, calmer, and able to connect more deeply with their children. She also helps parents to raise emotionally intelligent kids who are self-aware and able to positively manage their emotions and behaviors. Stephanie was appointed as the Emotional Intelligence Mentor for Australia's Nurture Parenting Magazine in 2021. She's also been featured on international parenting summits, conferences, and publications, and her groundbreaking book, From Chaos To Connection, was published in March 2023.  Tune in to this episode to learn more about emotional intelligence and how to teach emotional intelligence skills to your children.    Key Takeaways [4:43] What is emotional intelligence? [8:40] Why we - as parents - need to become emotionally intelligent first in order to raise kids who are emotionally intelligent [13:25] What parents can do to teach kids about emotional intelligence [21:13] The Emotion Wheel - a tool to help learn emotional intelligence [24:16] How the nervous system affects emotional intelligence [32:35] Additional tips for parents to teach emotional intelligence [39:03] Where to find Stephanie online   Memorable Quotes "Emotional intelligence actually has…26 individual competency or skill areas underneath it." "Emotional intelligence is our ability to be aware of our own emotions and those of others in the moment and to use that information to guide our actions…and to adjust our behavior as we need." "It's not that we manage other peoples' emotions, because we can't. But we can manage our relationship and how we show up in a relationship." "It's kind of impossible for me to raise kids who are kind and patient and empathetic…if I myself am not kind and patient…" "Having emotions is as much a part of being human as having a nose or an elbow or a brain that you can't see." "Unfortunately, for so long, they [emotions] have been demonized. We think of them as silly, awkward, fluffy, signs of weakness, something to be shoved down or put away or dealt with behind closed doors." "How can I shift my lens on these emotions?" "I often tell parents not to take emotions personally from your kids, especially our beautiful ADHD kids, because it has nothing to do with you." "My child's nervous system is constantly and unconsciously detecting cues -  like a radar - as to whether I'm safe and things are okay or is there a threat." "Modeling is showing your kids how to deal with their emotions. So, how to be mad - not "not to be mad" but how to be mad."   How to Connect with Stephanie Pinto Website: https://www.stephaniepinto.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids    Dana Kay Resources: Website: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDThriveInstitute  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adhd-thrive-institute/mycompany/  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute    International Best Selling Book, Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/  Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass – https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl   ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/