The Lifetime Problem With Being A “Nice Guy”

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Dr Robert Glover is a therapist, coach and an author. Being nice is something many of us aspire to become. After all, who doesn't want to be nice? Well Nice Guy Syndrome has been ruining the lives of many men for decades, so perhaps we should aspire to be something else. Expect to learn what is actually wrong with being a nice guy, why men become so afraid of putting their needs first, how to stop people pleasing, why nice guys end up resentful and bitter, whether nice guys attract or repel women and much more... Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get a 20% off all Momentous orders and up to 32% off new customer subscriptions at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout) Get a 20% discount & free shipping on your Lawnmower 5.0 at https://manscaped.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get 10% discount on all Gymshark’s products at https://bit.ly/sharkwisdom (use code: MW10) Timestamps: (00:00) What’s Wrong With Being a Nice Guy? (05:54) The Origin of Nice Guys (15:06) Using Aggression as a Masculine Tool (22:15) Are Nice Guys More Orderly? (28:06) Why Nice Guys Keep Things Hidden (38:54) The Solution is Not to Be a Bad Guy (45:02) Alain de Botton on Nice Guys (48:37) Why Women Aren’t Complaining About Nice Guys (58:38) What Nice Guys Need to Know About Female Attraction (1:05:23) The Role of Emotional Tension (1:13:54) The Importance of Playfulness (1:25:42) How to Rehabilitate a Nice Guy (1:30:50) Your Most Formative Sexual Experience (1:39:59) Best Practices to Help Nice Guys (1:46:23) Where to Find Dr Glover Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Dr Robert Glover is a therapist, coach and an author. Being nice is something many of us aspire to become. After all, who doesn't want to be nice? Well Nice Guy Syndrome has been ruining the lives of many men for decades, so perhaps we should...

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