74. Perfectionism: Where It Starts + How To Heal It

Perfectionism isn’t what most people think it is!!! It is not believing you are perfect or even trying to be perfect. It is the unconscious and fearful need to be perceived as someone who never gets anything wrong, never messes up, and always knows what they are doing. If you suffer from perfectionism, you are likely riddled with self doubt and believe that the doubt or unworthiness will dissolve when you become more skilled, more knowledgeable, more experienced…more SOMETHING! Perfectionism never allows yourself to be accepted in the now; it perpetually asks that you have to be something or do something before you can. Perfectionism is the antithesis of what we aim to foster on this podcast, which is SELF LOVE & ACCEPTANCE.Watch this episode on Youtube:https://youtu.be/7CpNQYYhIeQSo in this conversation, we break down the illusion of perfectionism by connecting back to its originating wound in addition to exploring its twin sister - PROCRASTINATION. Both perfectionism and its counterpart procrastination are driven by a fear of not meeting expectations…but who is setting the bar? Tune into this conversation if you’re seeking to understand why you feel like you can never relax and always need to do more. Highlights:Perfectionism and the Self-Punishment paradigmHow perfectionism hinders your personal and spiritual growthWhy self-acceptance & true self-love require imperfectionThe ILLUSION of perfection (and it’s negative impact on creativity)The relationship between social media and perfectionism Timestamps:00:00 Exploring Perfectionism05:10 Healing Perfectionism08:17 The Insidious Nature of Self-Punishment11:26 Accepting Imperfections26:05 The Illusion of Perfection28:52 Creating a Safe Space for Mistakes29:47 Perfectionism in Spirituality31:00 Self-Love and Acceptance36:39 Overcoming Perfectionism41:40 Perfectionism and Procrastination49:07 Starting Small and Embracing Imperfection55:01 Reevaluating Self-Worth and Acceptance–Watch this episode on YouTube:https://youtu.be/7CpNQYYhIeQDoors are open for METAMORPHOSIS - Gina's 12 Week Group Coaching Mastermind for Asian Creative Entrepreneurs! Click here to learn more and apply - we start in July 2024: https://ginabourne.lpages.co/metamorphosis/Join our FREE community: (We host free calls every month!)https://tinyurl.com/SpiralinghighercommunityTry the SUPERHUMAN app free for 6 weeks with code 'SPIRALINGHIGHER':https://www.superhuman.app/register–Apply for 1:1 coaching with Sam:https://www.simplifyingsam.com/1on1coachingApply for 1:1 coaching with Gina:https://tinyurl.com/1on1coachingbteFollow Spiraling Higher:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/spiralinghigherFollow Simplifying Sam:Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@simplifying.samInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/simplifying.samFollow Gina:Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@ginabourneInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/ginabourneFor all inquiries, email us at:[email protected] Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands