74. There Is No Rushing Grief: A Story of 2nd Trimester Pregnancy Loss With Kayla Heiar

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Rachel sits down with our close friend Kayla Heiar as she bravely shares the story of losing her baby girl, Skye Marie, at 15 weeks. Kayla walks us through her pregnancy journey—from early ultrasounds and hopeful milestones to the devastating appointment where no heartbeat was found. She opens up about the shock and disbelief that followed, the need to seek confirmation before making next steps, and the emotional weight of choosing a D&E. Kayla also shares what the postpartum reality of miscarriage looked like for her, including the physical recovery, hormonal shifts, bleeding, body changes, and even the unexpected experience of her milk coming in.Throughout the conversation, we talk about the many ways grief shows up in everyday life—through reminders like keepsakes, travel plans, and the challenge of imagining the future after loss. Kayla shares how she and her family chose to name and honor their daughter, Skye Marie, through burial and personal pieces of remembrance. She also reflects on how loss affects spouses differently and what it means to continue parenting their living children while carrying the grief of the one they lost. With honesty and faith, Kayla discusses the tension of holding both gratitude and grief at the same time, learning to allow moments of joy without guilt, and the deep human desire for answers in the midst of unanswered questions. This episode is a tender and real look at pregnancy loss, the postpartum experience that often goes unspoken, and the hope and support that can help carry families through the waves of grief. Our hope is listeners going through a similar journey will find comfort in knowing they aren't alone.