75: *6 LIES* your brain tells you when you’re Anxiously Attached (and how THIS sabotages your Relationships without you realizing) episode artwork

EPISODE · Aug 21, 2025 · 18 MIN

75: *6 LIES* your brain tells you when you’re Anxiously Attached (and how THIS sabotages your Relationships without you realizing)

from The Anxious To Secure PODCAST · host Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach

Ever spiral after a text delay? Feel rejected by a vibe shift? Think “this ALWAYS happens” - even if it’s just once? That’s not you being “crazy” or “too much.” It’s your brain running on ✨anxious survival mode✨  whispering LIES it thinks will protect you 😳 In this episode, we’re calling out the 6 BIGGEST cognitive distortions your anxious brain tells you when it feels unsafe - and giving them a loving reality check    You’ll learn: 🧠 Why “I feel it, so it must be true” is NOT the whole truth 🪫 The sneaky spiral of catastrophizing (aka “it’s over” after a 3-hour text delay) 🧨 How “mind reading” + “shoulds” quietly sabotage your connection 🪞 Why your brain blames YOU (or them)  and what to do instead 💬 Powerful coaching questions to interrupt spirals in the moment 📝 A 7-day challenge to start REWIRING your inner stories + get real results   Want more support? ➞ Monthly Text + Talk Support 📲 🖤 (daily coaching, check-ins + reassurance and becoming secure, text by text, commitment free support, cancel any month) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk   ➞ Monthly Coaching Calls 📞🖤 (2x calls a month or unlimited calls + text support to help you become secure) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/oneononecoachingsubscription   ➞ SHOP: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop   COURSES 👩🏻‍💻📓✍🏻(for little money) ➞ How to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship with Your Avoidant Attached Partner in 4 Steps https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse   ➞ How to Stop OBSESSING over your text in 21 days or less (did they reply? why haven’t they texted yet? what did they mean only texted a thumbs up?) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety     Grab more FREE resources: ALL: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach Like…. Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety ✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)     CHAPTERS: 00:00 6 LIES Your Brain Tells You When You’re Anxiously Attached 01:44 01 Emotional Reasoning 03:43 O2 Overgeneralization 06:28 03 Should Statements 08:34 04 Labeling and Blaming 10:11 05 Mind Reading 12:49 06 Catastrophizing 15:05 Challenging Cognitive Distortions to feel less anxious 15:53 Cognitive Distortion Exercise for 7 days     This episode will help you stop believing everything your anxious mind says So you can: ➞ Create more emotional safety ➞ Stop the spiral before it ruins your connection ➞ Trust yourself again   PS: Awareness is powerful… But action = real transformation   ▶️ Listen in now to spot your anxious brain’s biggest tricks — and rewrite them Your future secure self is already PROUD of you Ready to stop spiraling, chasing, and questioning your worth in love?   DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.   Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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