#75 How Do I... Practice Self Compassion When I Make a Mistake?

Episode 75 of the Be the Sun, Not the Salt podcast, hosted by Connie Fontaine and Harry Cohen, PhD, titled "#75 How Do I... Practice Self Compassion When I Make a Mistake?" was published on December 11, 2025 and runs 10 minutes.

December 11, 2025 ·10m · Be the Sun, Not the Salt

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Summary

Ever replay something you did and think, “Wow, I am the absolute worst”? In this “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine get real about what it means to practice self-compassion when you mess up, from small everyday slip-ups to the big, public, ego-bruising kind. Here’s what you’ll hear: Why beating yourself up is usually just a bad habit in disguise, not deep truth about who you are. How to catch that harsh inner voice in the act and sw...

Episode Description

Ever replay something you did and think, “Wow, I am the absolute worst”? In this “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine get real about what it means to practice self-compassion when you mess up, from small everyday slip-ups to the big, public, ego-bruising kind.

Here’s what you’ll hear:

Why beating yourself up is usually just a bad habit in disguise, not deep truth about who you are.
How to catch that harsh inner voice in the act and swap it for something kinder and more helpful.
Simple phrases and little mindset shifts that can turn “I’m an idiot” moments into “Okay, oops, what now?” moments.
The power of laughing at yourself, using your own name, and even smiling on purpose when you want to cringe.
What to do when the mistake is not private but public, and your ego feels like it has been hit by a truck.
How honest acknowledgment, clean apologies, and “start again” energy can actually increase trust with other people.
Gentle reminders that mistakes are where the practice happens and that you can be the sun to yourself, not just everyone else.

If you are tired of being your own harshest critic and want practical, real-world ways to treat yourself with more warmth when you blow it, this episode offers relatable stories and small, doable shifts you can try right away.

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