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EPISODE · Mar 7, 2025 · 33 MIN

75: "Love Yourself, Asshole" and Other Mysteries 03.07.25

from Honestly, Dear Listener · host Honestly, Dear Listener

Ever feel like the world is on fire, your creative energy is on life support, and the certainty you once clung to—faith, government, the idea that adults know what they’re doing—was all an illusion? Yeah, us too. This week, we’re getting real about the existential free-fall of realizing certainty was never actually real, the shame spiral that comes with feeling too much, and the struggle to carve out small pockets of joy without guilt. Along the way, we unpack the absurdity of self-directed cruelty (love yourself, you asshole), the tension between being informed and completely overwhelmed, and why questioning everything doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re alive. Buckle up for brutal honesty, questionable metaphors, and maybe, just maybe, a little hope.References:“Thinking Out Loud” - song by Ed SheeranTIMECODES0:00 Intro0:33 - We’re the fun ones. So why don’t I feel fun?5:23 - Invalidating our own painful feelings/feeling shame for feelings12:16 - Fundamentalist upbringing contributing to feeling shame for feelings13:087 - Uncertainty vs. uncertainty22:34 - Finding balance between wallowing and purposefully ignorant24:52 - “Love yourself, asshole!”26:18 - Access to information is a double-edged swordCheck out our episodes about spiritual deconstruction/fundamentalism:21: How Fundamentalism STILL Affects How We Create PART 1 02.09.2422: How Fundamentalism STILL Affects How We Create PART 2 02.16.2459: Fundamentalism, Mental Health, and Creativity 11.15.2464: Panic, Prayer, and Prozac: Our Mental Health Adventures! Part 1 12.20.2465: Panic, Prayer, and Prozac: Our Mental Health Adventures! Part 2 12.27.24

Ever feel like the world is on fire, your creative energy is on life support, and the certainty you once clung to—faith, government, the idea that adults know what they’re doing—was all an illusion? Yeah, us too. This week, we’re getting real about the existential free-fall of realizing certainty was never actually real, the shame spiral that comes with feeling too much, and the struggle to carve out small pockets of joy without guilt. Along the way, we unpack the absurdity of self-directed cruelty (love yourself, you asshole), the tension between being informed and completely overwhelmed, and why questioning everything doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re alive. Buckle up for brutal honesty, questionable metaphors, and maybe, just maybe, a little hope.References:“Thinking Out Loud” - song by Ed SheeranTIMECODES0:00 Intro0:33 - We’re the fun ones. So why don’t I feel fun?5:23 - Invalidating our own painful feelings/feeling shame for feelings12:16 - Fundamentalist upbringing contributing to feeling shame for feelings13:087 - Uncertainty vs. uncertainty22:34 - Finding balance between wallowing and purposefully ignorant24:52 - “Love yourself, asshole!”26:18 - Access to information is a double-edged swordCheck out our episodes about spiritual deconstruction/fundamentalism:21: How Fundamentalism STILL Affects How We Create PART 1 02.09.2422: How Fundamentalism STILL Affects How We Create PART 2 02.16.2459: Fundamentalism, Mental Health, and Creativity 11.15.2464: Panic, Prayer, and Prozac: Our Mental Health Adventures! Part 1 12.20.2465: Panic, Prayer, and Prozac: Our Mental Health Adventures! Part 2 12.27.24

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