76: Teaching Social Skills to Kids with ADHD with Kolby Kail

Many children with ADHD also experience social deficits. They may not fully understand how to read social cues of other children and might - as a result - struggle to make friends. If you have a child with ADHD who struggles socially, this week's episode of the Soaring Child podcast is a must-listen to episode!  Kolby Kail joins the show and shares key strategies parents can use to teach social skills to their kids of various ages! Kolby is the owner and head speech language pathologist at Family First Speech Therapy in San Diego, California. For over 20 years, she has been helping families thrive through improving communication skills. She's a licensed California speech language pathologist, certified orofacial myologist, and parenting coach. She offers support for speech, language deficits, behaviors, ADHD, and so much more. Kolby believes in a whole family approach and works with the entire family to help a child achieve their goals while having fun and setting up each family member to thrive. Tune in to this episode to learn more about how to teach your child social skills and how to overcome social anxiety and social deficits.  Link mentioned in the podcast:  To sign up for the ADHD Thrive Institute's free ADHD Masterclass, go here - https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/live    Key Takeaways: [4:30] What are social skills, and when do they begin? [6:50] Kolby's personal experience with ADHD [9:48] The difference between social anxiety and social deficits [11:50] Strategies to help kids overcome social deficits [15:07] Teaching social skills by age [21:42] When parents should seek outside help with social deficits [26:12] How executive function challenges affect social skills [27:54] At what ages is coaching beneficial? [31:04] A start-today tip [34:10] Where to find Kolby online   Memorable Moments: "You start connecting with your kid pretty much the moment they come out." "90% of children with ADHD have some sort of language deficit." "Just because you hear the words doesn't mean it's computing." "You are causing thoughts and feelings in the person in front of you, no matter what you do - the way you dress, the way you look, everything you do is causing thoughts and feelings in other people and if you don't understand that, you're not getting social skills." "80% of what we do in conversation is nonverbal." "We have to understand, number one, that you are causing thoughts and feelings in other people, if you like it or not." "Joy is a choice. Happiness is a choice." "The way in which we carry ourselves will carry over to our children. If we are doom and gloom, expect your child to be doom and gloom." "You are the thermostat. You are not the thermometer. Your children are going to go up and down, but you have to stay at a cool 75." "You've got to be able to regulate your own emotions because our kids with ADHD, they're 0-60 in no time flat." "When you and I are together, my job is to make you feel good so you call me and want to hang out with me again. So if they don't feel good, they're not making other people feel good."   How to Connect with Kolby Kail Website: https://familyfirstspeechtherapy.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kolbykail/?hl=en     Dana Kay Resources: Website: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDThriveInstitute/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDThriveInstitute  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/adhd-thrive-institute/mycompany/  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/adhdthriveinstitute/  Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute    International Best Selling Book, Thriving with ADHD – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/  Free Reduce ADHD Symptoms Naturally Masterclass - https://bit.ly/3GAbFQl  ADHD Parenting Course – https://info.adhdthriveinstitute.com/parentingadhd ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Program – https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/packages/