775 My Strength is My Story with Beverly Benskin, Mourning Talk

Beverly Benskin is a woman who has a heart for those who are suffering with grief. Grief is natural, but each one of us grieves uniquely. Bev shares her story of walking through grief with the death of her mother and the challenges and blessings that were discovered along the journey. She has since closed her counseling practice in faith to move full-time into grief coaching. "Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted." Grief is not a death sentence. Instead you have the opportunity to choose the direction you want to go...grieve and live well. Beverly Benskin: A devoted daughter, a neonatal ICU nurse, a board-certified Christian Life coach who emphasizes in grief coaching. She is a licensed professional counselor, certified with the Association for Death Education and Counseling. One of her most precious times was serving for 5 years as the facilitator of the "Celebration of Life" for neonates who did not graduate (the loss of his/her life). Beverly Benskin, RN, MA, NCC, LPC, CT, BCC, BSN Bev's mission to help others grieve and live well! As a woman and daughter who has personally experienced grief from the death of her mother, her passion has grown deeper. Her story has developed an immense amount of strength to move others through the process of grief. Bev loves to #KeepItReal! Everyone has their unique grief pathway. You can experience loss and move forward whether it's with tears of sorrow, joy, laughter or a combination of all.  "Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted." ~ Matthew 5:4 CONNECT with BEV: Hope Focused Coaching Enjoy the multitude of topics discussed including grief, life support, and intention all wrapped in JOY! You'll discover many nuggets of wisdom, nuggets of joy, and nuggets of hope throughout this coffee chat; and lots of giggles! Sit back and feel the joy of how loss can be turned to a beautiful smile! Daughter, nurse, counselor, and life coach Grief Coaching Neonatal Nurse Facilitating "Celebration of Life" Scared of death growing up God's sense of humor Born in England, from Canada, lives in Dallas Kidney failure Living for the Call Death of Mom So many tears... Unique healing Real Hurt Real Talk with God Fast food society Feelings Healing Actively and Intentional Grieving Writing Hoarders Steps to Relief Make your peace Regret Life Support Telling your loved ones what you want Release of guilt/say your peace Ask the questions that are bothering you I LOVE YOU! Comparison Relationship to the deceased Laughter & Humor Legacy Plan Your Funeral Little griefs Family dynamics Control Palliative Care Holding on Grief shopping Grief coaching Scars Stories The New Me #KeepItReal CONNECT with BEV: Hope Focused Coaching   Quotes and statements within the interview: "It was five years of joy for me." "This is your biggest fear and I'm going to make it your job." "I was shattered." "I don't want to be a bracelet. I don't want to be a necklace. I don't want to be a ring. I just want to be left alone." "You grieve your personality." "I'm gradually coming out the fog." "Grief is any perceived loss." "He comforts those who are broken-hearted." "We are not a society that is able to grieve." "Helping you to live and to grieve well." "It's feeling the pain and still growing!" "Grief is chaotic." "We are all going to pass away at some point, we just don't know the date." "Live the best life we can with the people we have with us now and still be ok." "You can grieve and still go on vacation." "This is not your world. You're just visiting." "I can't control everything. I can only control me." "It's OK to go now." "Jesus is waiting for you." "We have lost the art of communication." "Grief is natural." "He already sees the broken pieces of our heart. He wants us to give Him the pieces so He can put it back together." "Our story is our life. Our story is a blessing to other people. Our story is a testimony." "Don't despise the story; don't despise the scars. It's a part of you."   Conversation Queues Talking about Death Ask questions Why do you love me? What do you love about me? What do you want me to do? What would you want me to do if something tragic happens? What has your story gifted you? Fearlessness "I'm doing thing out of the ordinary." Resources mentioned in the episode: Connect with Beverly Benskin; http://hopefocusedcoaching.com CONNECT with BEV: Hope Focused Coaching Facebook: facebook.com/mourningtalk Instagram: instagram.com/mourningtalk   "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!" Ready to see if coaching and a mentorship is for you? It's time you TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation. This is FREE for you. Stop trying to do it by yourself. Invest in YOU! You are worth the time!!!   ANNOUNCEMENT: Ready to shine your light and tell your story. Please click on MY STRENGTH IS MY STORY. 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