78. What Your Shame Spiral Is Trying to Tell You

Ever opened up to someone… and then immediately regretted it? You’re lying in bed, replaying everything you said, wondering if you were too much, said too much, or scared them off. That shame spiral? It’s not just in your head. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why we feel so gross after being vulnerable—and how to stop letting that shame run the show. We’ll talk nervous system reactions, trauma responses, and what it really means when you overshare. Plus, I’ll give you some practical tools to regulate in the moment and find safer containers to be seen (without spiraling the next day).You might want to listen if:You constantly second-guess yourself after deep conversationsYou’ve felt a “vulnerability hangover” and didn’t know how to come down from itYou grew up being told you were too much, too sensitive, or too emotionalYou overshare to feel close but end up feeling exposed insteadYou want to feel safe being seen, without the shame spiral afterWORK WITH ME🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn — see if the Fall 2026 Cohort is the right fit for youReady Now? Join the Speak Honest AcademyApply for FREE Podcast Coaching with JennAsk your Coach a question — it might get featured on the showLEARN MOREGrab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of AttachmentVisit www.speak-honest.com to learn moreWatch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx TalkSTAY CONNECTEDJoin our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honestEnjoying the show? A review helps other women find us!DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for acc...