79: Part 6/12, The Art of Asking for What You Want: How to Talk about Sex Series

79: Part 6/12, The Art of Asking for What You Want:  How to Talk about Sex Series In this episode, Janelle and Andrea discuss the Wheel of Consent with educator, playwright and pro-domme Carmen Leilani De Jesus. They cover how to get curious about what we want and ask for it (no small task) and how we can find a win-win! There's real-time embodiment exercises, several mic drop moments (Andrea shrieks!) and actionable homework for Bravehearts. Includes a nod to the Pomodoro Technique, "The Art of Giving and Receiving", by Betty Martin,  the Wanting Game and the Three Minute Game. You'll hear: --Where to start when approaching your partner about sex --Why pleasure is an INSIDE job (and you can take responsibility for yours!) --Why "giving you pleasure gives me pleasure" isn't a win-win --How the basics still apply: Trust, Value and Communication --Why consent should be a mutual understanding of desires and limits (or willingness with limits!). --How saying our desires out loud can help us embody them --Why Janelle likes to have sex and THEN go to dinner --The lowdown on creating somatic bookmarks in your body! Connect with Carmen: www.consentisapractice.co IG = @‌consentisapractice --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/