#79: Why We Want a 3-4 Year Age Gap for Baby #3 IF We Have One

I have no clue whether Erik and I will have a third baby. We're both leaving the door open for that possibility. What we do know though is we're waiting minimum 3-4 years between baby 3 and our second baby. Probably leaning closer to 4 years.With two kids just over two years apart, I reflect on what the postpartum period was actually like for me, especially as a mom who parents intentionally, prefers not to take shortcuts or use literal or metaphorical pacifiers, and mothers in alignment with biological norms. Hint: I had to take shortcuts. I needed to give myself a lot of grace.I examine factors such as my personal capacity, my kids' and my own temperaments, resources, age, energy, and milestones I would prefer for my second baby to reach before we even begin to think about trying for a third IF we eventually decide to have a third. In this episode, I talk about:What postpartum really looked like with two kids 26 months apartMy theory for why “two under two” works for some families and not for othersThe physical and emotional toll of back-to-back pregnancies and extended breastfeedingWhat bigger age gaps actually mean for sibling bondsHunter-gatherer family spacing and modern pressures around fertilityEgg quality vs. egg quantity (and why I’m not afraid of pregnancy in my late 30s)If you’re a mom who feels conflicted about wanting to wait or pressured to hurry up, this conversation is for you.Support the showTHANKS TO SPONSOR:Wild Nutritionist!Use code MOTR to save 35% off Mama Baby Biome Method AND First Foods PlanStay Connected With Me:Subscribe to Moms Off The Record on YouTubeJOIN THE MOTR PRIVATE COMMUNITY here Book a potty training 1:1 consult with me hereDiscount codes & links to my favorite courses and products hereLove Moms off the Record? You can directly support the show hereThank you for leaving a rating and written review on Apple and Spotify! This is the best, free way to support the podcast. Follow MOTR on instagram here