8. Exes - To Friend or Not to Friend

Summary In this episode of the Trial and Error Podcast, hosts LJ and Ale delve into the complexities of maintaining friendships with ex-partners. They explore the statistics surrounding this phenomenon, discuss the reasons why some people choose to stay friends with their exes, and weigh the pros and cons of such relationships. The conversation also touches on gender dynamics, emotional boundaries, and the impact of these friendships on current relationships. Ultimately, they conclude that while some may find value in these connections, many others advocate for a clean break.   Takeaways Around 60% of people maintain a friendship with an ex after a breakup. Friendships with exes can stem from security, practicality, civility, or unresolved romantic desires. Staying friends due to unresolved romantic desires often leads to negative outcomes. Practicality and civility are less likely to result in long-term friendships. Emotional confusion can hinder healing and moving on after a breakup. Maintaining friendships with exes can complicate new relationships. Gender dynamics play a role in how friendships with exes are perceived and maintained. It's important to set boundaries with current partners regarding friendships with exes. Not all breakups are toxic, and some may allow for healthy friendships later on. Ultimately, the decision to remain friends with an ex should be based on personal circumstances and emotional health.   Resources https://www.livescience.com/60057-staying-friends-with-ex-may-work.html https://today.yougov.com/society/articles/44073-do-americans-stay-friends-with-their-exes-poll https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/valley-girl-brain/201211/sorry-is-why-you-can-t-be-friends-your-ex Griffith, Rebecca & Gillath, Omri & Zhao, Xian & MARTINEZ, RICHARD. (2017). Staying friends with ex-romantic partners: Predictors, reasons, and outcomes: Friendship with ex-romantic partners. Personal Relationships. 24. 10.1111/pere.12197.