#8: How Can You Heal From Sexual Shame? I Have A Radical Idea + My Time At The Sexual Freedom Awards

How do you heal sexual shame? Phew, that's a big, meaty question, and while I don't have all the answers, I have some very practical advice based both on my own personal journey of healing my own sexual shame, and professionally. I believe the most potent antidote to sexual shame is overt celebration, along with education, affirming spaces, treating yourself with tenderness and care, and going slowly. In this episode I cover: My time at the Sexual Freedom Awards The most potent antidote to sexual shame: Overt celebration Why sexual shame is largely from your culture The difference between celebration and creepiness When we suppress sexuality and what happens The difference between guilt and shame Is it possible to both overtly celebrate sex while also being trauma informed? YES! How shame feels like to me Why healing needs to be done with tenderness and care for the shame Why shame is there for a very good reason and it needs respect You can get 50% off your annual subscription to Beducated here: https://bit.ly/BeducatedMayLR Quotes: "I believe one of the most potent antidotes to sexual shame, ways to help really peel back those layers of the onion is, celebration. Affirmation, celebration. I don't believe it's enough to just say, "Sex is good, masturbation is good, orgasms are good.". That's a basic starting point, we need that, but I think you cannot beat and we can go such a long way when you are actually in a room or a virtual room and you are seeing people overtly displaying and celebrating their sexuality. And that can mean masturbation, it can mean people twerking, nude dancing, and to have it have everyone else celebrate it." "It's understanding how deep sexual shame and patriarchal conditioning goes" "Alchemizing sexual shame isn't just a "you" process, it's a, "we" process. You do it in community, you do it other people, you do it by working with a coach, going to workshops, going to festivals, going to meetup groups" Special shoutouts: The Sexual Freedom Awards: https://www.sexualfreedomawards.co.uk/ Silva Neves Dr. Tina Sherma Sellers Gigi Engle Galen Fous Michael Dresser Sarah Martin Dr. Justin Lehmiller Dr. David Ley Douglas Braun-Harvey Articles and publications on sexual shame: Silva Neves (2022) The religious disguise in “sex addiction” therapy, Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 37:3, 299-313, DOI: 10.1080/14681994.2021.2008344 Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, by Dr. Tina Scherma Sellers: https://www.routledge.com/Sex-God-and-the-Conservative-Church-Erasing-Shame-from-Sexual-Intimacy/Sellers/p/book/9781138674981 Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior: Rethinking Sex Addiction, by Douglas Braun-Harvey and Michael Vigorito : https://www.theharveyinstitute.com/publications/books Want to connect more? For the shameless sexual confidence, pleasure and deep satisfaction you’ve been craving, head here: ⁠https://lucyrowett.com/⁠ Free video class on authentic sexual confidence: ⁠https://bit.ly/moreconfidentinbed⁠ Free PDF on how to confidently ask for what you want in bed: ⁠https://bit.ly/askforwhatyoureallywant Learn more about working together 1:1 here: http://lucyrowett.com/sex-intimacy-relationship-coaching/ Social media links: IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lucylurowett⁠ TT: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/⁠ FB: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/lucyrowettcsc⁠ LI: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucy-rowett-csc-cs-acs-9a301351/ Credits: Produced and Hosted by: Lucy Rowett Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett Music by: Tom M at Filmstro