8. When Polyamory Became Self-Betrayal

In this episode, Monet Noctaris explores disillusionment through the lens of polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, bisexuality, coercion, and the quiet ways we can use “expanded” frameworks to betray our own knowing. This is not an episode about why polyamory is bad. It is an episode about what happens when a relationship structure becomes a place where boundaries are crossed, needs are distorted into demands, and self-abandonment gets spiritualized as growth. Monet shares the story of coming out to herself more fully, opening her marriage, realizing she had been overriding her own body’s wisdom, and later repeating the same pattern inside a soul-level connection she desperately wanted to keep alive. Through it all, she traces the moment the spell breaks — the moment when disillusionment stops being devastation and becomes the doorway back to self-sovereignty. For anyone who has tolerated mistreatment in the name of being evolved, loving, open-minded, spiritual, progressive, or “not controlling,” this episode is an invitation to stop abandoning yourself to be loved. Visit www.monetnoctaris.com Download the free Sovereign Human Pathway here. Read the companion essay on Substack: My Heart is Not a Public Park Follow Monet on Instagram.