#8 Why Dating Strategies Don’t Work

1. Dating strategies (aka attraction psychology) are designed to increase desire by playing on insecurity. Focal Point: When you’re not “getting what you want” from a potential partner, consider it a red flag, not an opportunity to “inspire” them. 2.  Secure partners are attracted to people who see them in their personal power (authenticity) *and* are drawn to it. Focal Point: Long-term attraction is built when you can see someone as equally powerful. 3. Dating is about learning to trust yourself and develop discernment about what you need to feel open and expansive. This means you practice asking for what you need and want- early and often <3 Focal Point: Empowered partners are into clear communication- if you need something, ask for it (negotiate if you need to, check out Courtney’s post Stop "Compromising" in Relationships (and What to Do Instead So They Actually Work) — Courtney Schand). 4. Boundaries are meant to be internalized as we mature (feelings-based boundaries) instead of strategy (rules-based boundaries). Focal Point: Strategies are great scaffolds while you are learning to be guided by YOUR feelings. Want more from Courtney? Facebook: Courtney Schand Details for Arise: The Art of Empowerment group program: www.courtneyschand.com/arise Free Training: How to Speak to Men So He Can Hear You Instagram: @Courtney_Schand Website: CourtneySchand.com Want more from Bri? Apply to work with Bri 1:1: https://buildingbri.com/enquiry/ Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ManifestingQueens111/ Instagram: @buildingbri Website: bulidingbri.com Ways to work with Bri: https://buildingbri.com/work-with-me/