#80: A Regulated Nervous System Is Not Always A Calm One with Amanda Texeira

JOIN AMANDA'S UPCOMING MOTHERPRINT COHORT ON FEB 23RD! Today I'm joined by LCSW Amanda Texeira who is a mom of three boys and a holistic, trauma-informed therapist. to unpack one of the most misunderstood and overused phrases in modern motherhood: nervous system regulation.Somewhere along the way, “regulated” became synonymous with “calm.”If you’re not calm all the time? You must be dysregulated!Amanda debunks this myth.We talk about the pendulum swing in motherhood content: from hyper-curated, perfectly curated moments to victim-mindset misery. We discuss how algorithm-driven black-and-white parenting advice like never saying the word “no” can actually make moms more dysregulated, ironically.We explore:Why calm ≠ regulatedThe difference between congruent responses and suppressionHow to model emotional intelligenceWhy yelling “NO!” when your child runs toward traffic is actually regulatedWhy Amanda doesn't like parenting scriptsThe performative side of “gentle parenting”How algorithm-fed content can manufacture miseryWhen "mental load" rhetoric is helpful vs. harmfulWe close by talking about congruency, repair cycles, environmental regulation myths, and why your reaction often makes sense even when Instagram denies it.Follow Amanda on instagramCheck out all of Amanda's incredible services and courses hereSupport the showTHANKS TO SPONSOR:Wild Nutritionist!Use code MOTR to save 35% off Mama Baby Biome Method AND First Foods PlanStay Connected With Me:Subscribe to Moms Off The Record on YouTubeJOIN THE MOTR PRIVATE COMMUNITY here Book a potty training 1:1 consult with me hereDiscount codes & links to my favorite courses and products hereLove Moms off the Record? You can directly support the show hereThank you for leaving a rating and written review on Apple and Spotify! This is the best, free way to support the podcast. Follow MOTR on instagram here