81. How to Stop Overworking Before It Stops You

This episode is about how to stop overworking, and start asking for what you actually need. Do you know you're overworking but can't seem to stop? You're not lazy. You're not bad at time management. You've just never been taught that it's okay to ask for what you actually need. In this episode, I share a real client story about a woman who was working around the clock — not because anyone asked her to, but because somewhere along the way she learned that her value came from how much she could handle. She kept going. And going. Until she couldn't anymore. This episode is for anyone who has ever pushed through exhaustion and called it being professional. For anyone who has never once said out loud — this isn't sustainable. For anyone who is waiting for the right time to slow down and suspects it's never going to come on its own. Spoiler: it won't - but this will help. What You'll Hear in This Episode → Why overworking is a people-pleasing problem not a time management problem → The moment a client sent a boundary setting message live in a session — and why it took thirty seconds → How we teach people how to treat us without ever realising we're doing it  → The simple three part framework for asking for what you need at work — calmly, clearly and without guilt → Why knowing you need to change something and actually changing it are two completely different things → Your action step for this week — simple, doable and more powerful than it sounds Key Themes & Keywords Overworking · burnout · people pleasing at work · how to stop overworking · work life balance · setting boundaries at work · how to ask for what you need · over-functioning · emotional exhaustion · people pleaser recovery · trigger pause respond · communicating needs at work · how to set boundaries without guilt · quietly resentful · automatic yes · personal development podcast · habit change coaching Quotable Moments "She wasn't overworking because anyone asked her to. She just never learned it was okay to stop." "We are always teaching people how to treat us. Always." "When we keep saying yes to things that are breaking us — we teach people that yes is always available." "Not a time management system. Not a productivity hack. Just the truth said simply and calmly." "The pattern didn't happen overnight. And it won't shift overnight either. But it will shift." "That noticing is where it starts." Resources & Links 🎟 Join The Reset — founding member rate $997, cart closes June 23rd midnight CT: jennymcoaching.com/thereset/#CHECKOUT 🧠 Not sure if people pleasing applies to you? Take the 2 minute quiz: bit.ly/notapeoplepleaser 📲 Follow Jenny on Instagram and LinkedIn: @jennymcoaching 🎙 Subscribe to the podcast: Who Do You Think You Are Talking To — weekly on Spotify and Apple Podcasts This episode directly answers: 'How do I stop overworking?' · 'Why can't I stop working even when I'm exhausted?' · 'How do I ask my boss for better working hours?' · 'What is people pleasing at work?' · 'How do I set boundaries at work without feeling guilty?' · 'Why do I always put work before myself?' · 'How do I communicate my needs at work?' · 'What is the trigger pause respond method?' · 'How do I stop over-functioning?' · 'Why do I feel guilty taking time off?'