How Self-Reliance Erodes Attraction In Relationship - Coaching Session With Ali | EP 82

In this live coaching session, you'll have the opportunity to listen to the challenges Ali is navigating as we explore the loss of connection and attraction in his romantic partnership.What initially looked like a strong circumstantial change that shifted their dynamic turned out to be something completely different, as we explored Ali's contribution to this dynamic.What we discovered is how much of it traces back to difficult experiences he's navigated, through which he has had to adapt and learn how to protect himself.And while it might have supported him at one stage of his life, it was now leading to a breakdown in the closeness he was experiencing with his partner, and the attraction.Discover here how painful experiences with our family can teach us a sense of self-reliance, something I observe with many men, and how ruptures in our connections can lead us to unconsciously distance ourselves from the closeness we actually crave from our partners.If you listen closely, I'd argue that this is going to be a session many of you might be able to relate to...To me, it highlights that powerful leadership isn't just about the ways we lead and direct areas such as the provision for our relationships, but rather, it often begins by honestly assessing the aspects we're quietly carrying that are impacting our connection.This one was for sure a relatable one for me, and I know for many high performers I work with as well.Here you get to discover the vulnerable story of a man who's father tried to take his own life when he was 18, how a five year relationship ended at the height of his addiction, and how his nervous system learned early on that other people's wellbeing was his job and his alone.In this coaching session, find out:The big life shift that changed the dynamic between Ali and his partnerHow he went from being her lover to feeling like her caregiverThe night his father's suicide attempt left him feeling responsible for othersHow over responsibility can turn into a lifelong habit of self-reliance and not being able to receiveHow ruptures in the relationship taught him to no longer be available for connectionWhy always being the one to lead can actually be a way of avoiding being let downWhy praising a woman for who she is, not just what she does, can entirely change the dynamicWhat came up for him during the breathwork journey that closed out the sessionI carry deep respect and appreciation for Ali's willingness to bring this topic so openly to our recorded session. To me, it takes a big man to admit what's not working in the relationship, especially around sensitive topics such as love and attraction, and to have the willingness to examine his part.This episode's for anyone who's built their worth around being the one who's always got themselves, and has never stopped to ask what it might cost them to not allow themselves to need someone.—Connect with Alex: ◼ Website: https://www.alexlehmann.co◼ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/◼ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@heartofmanpodcast◼ LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/alexlehmann-hom◼ Listen to this conversation on Apple Podcasts and leave a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/heart-of-man/id1697289478◼ Email: [email protected]◼ Think we might be a good fit to work together? Let’s find out & schedule a free connection call (one spot available at present time): https://ahb8n7i1908.typeform.com/to/ddTCwpJP