83: LOVE - How Smart Women Sabotage & Sacrifice Themselves in Relationship

Why do so many of us smart women sabotage ourselves when it comes to relationships? And as a result sacrifice what we need, or sacrifice or dreams and desires. Or settle for less in our partnerships and friendships? Or put up with non-respectful and relationships with our relatives or at work? How can we be good at our jobs and rock our careers, yet struggle in the realm of love and the heart? And how do we find the wisdom to create the strong, beautiful, supportive partnerships, friendships, family, community that we not only desire but that we actually NEED to have the impact we desire and be supported and cared for and sustained.  Over my life and my work with amazing, strong, good hearted women, I noticed that we have been sold a bill of goods about love and relationship that is just plain WRONG. What we are taught to expect, how we see ourselves and others, how we show up in them, what healthy relationships look like is in so many ways warped and distorted, not powerful and wise. The cost of this is huge. Your relationships can either be the wind beneath your wings that support you to soar, or the chains around your heart that keep you from your dreams, desires and deep human need to feel loved, safe and cared for. If we as grown women do not know how to cultivate healthy relationships that support us to thrive, how can we expect the children we raise or the young people we influence to grow strong on the inside to have only respectful relationships? In 2009, I wrote my first book, Choosing ME Before WE, because I just could not watch another woman suffer in her relationships. In 2015 I started the Path of Self Love School to teach women and girls and now men and boys the wisdom I never got growing up but that we all need. And the tools to understand how to work with my own heart so all my relationships could support me to soar. This month, I felt inspired to create a 4 part Feminine Power Time for you on LOVE and Relationships. This first Feminine Power Time, "Why Smart Women Sabotage and Sacrifice Themselves in Relationship"  is with me Christine Arylo - you and me heart to heart on this essential part of our feminine power and wisdom.  The ones to come will include guests to take us deeper into different realms of love and relationship - your LOVE LIFE includes much more than 'romantic relationships'. For today, I invite you to tune in as we dive deeper into: 3 big misunderstandings about love that lead to suffering and sacrificing ourselves in relationship 3 big wisdom bytes to right those misunderstandings that will affect all of your relationships Why working harder, giving more and making it work are bad choices for your relationships How wounds - love cracks-from our young life show up in our adult work life Why our hearts hurt so bad when a relationship ends - it's not what you think How to tell if the person you love is really able to grow with you How to tell if your overstaying in a relationship that needs to expire Signs that you are sacrificing yourself or your dreams in your relationship PLUS I will share my personal story about relationships and how it became my catalyst and saved me from creating a life and career that wasn't what I really wanted. I'll do a short reading from Choosing ME Before WE that rocked my world and opened the door to self forgiveness for my relationship choices. We'll stop and reflect on how these misunderstandings are showing up in your life or in those you love. Then next week, in Feminine Power Time on LOVE 2 of 4, my soul partner and the man who has taught me SO much about relationship, Noah Martin, will join us for "What We've Learned about Love in Partnership." More Resources, Programs, Books If LOVE and Relationship is an area of focus for you this year or someone you know, join us and check out:   "The Impact of Self Love on Our Relationships" SELF LOVE DAY - Feb 13th www.SelfLoveSession.com  RSVP for Free   The Path of Self Love Teacher Training 2019 Self Love & Relationship Module starts March 5th www.SelfLoveTraining.com   Choosing ME Before WE - the book www.mebeforewe.com   Path of Self Love In Person Training & Retreat  Teaching Others to Love Themselves July 2019 - Kripalu  https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/path-self-love-training-teaching-others-love-themselves