#83: Are We Raising Kids To Be Impressive-Or Be Themselves?

Send us Fan Mailhttps://www.facebook.com/share/p/14rPgv4xHGb/LinkedInInfluential Women VerifiedWhat If Success Isn't What We Think It Is?What if success isn't about becoming impressive?What if it's about becoming yourself?In this episode of Transform Your Life: Just Count Me In, Sari Stone explores a question that has been coming up through her work with young people, parents, and leaders:Are we helping people discover who they are—or unconsciously asking them to become who we think they should be?This isn't an episode about criticizing parents.It's a celebration of the parents who are becoming more conscious, more curious, and more willing to let their children have their own journeys.It's also a much bigger conversation about success, identity, authenticity, and the lives we choose to create.Sari shares her own story of graduating from high school, taking time to travel, crossing the country, and eventually moving to Colorado before going to college—a path that wasn't what her parents had envisioned for her.Looking back, she recognizes something important:Her job wasn't to complete the part of her parents' lives that they hadn't been able to complete. Her life was hers.And perhaps our children aren't here to complete our unfinished stories either.In this episode, we explore:The young person who leaves a six-figure job to figure out who he really isThe young person who discovers genuine happiness working with plants rather than following a traditional professional pathYoung people questioning the pressure to participate in alcohol and drug cultureWhy a different path isn't necessarily a lesser pathThe difference between guiding a child and designing their lifeHow parents can begin examining their own fears and expectationsDr. Shefali Tsabary's philosophy of conscious parenting and the idea that our children can become our teachers and awakenersWhy our children's accomplishments don't define our success as parentsThe difference between an impressive life and a meaningful lifeHow this same issue shows up in adults, entrepreneurs, and business leadersWhy a successful business, impressive title, or large income doesn't necessarily mean we're living an aligned lifeHow this connects to Sari's previous episode about numbers and the ways we measure ourselvesThe question: "Are we measuring the things that actually matter?"What it might look like to raise—and become—people who know themselvesA question for parents:Would I still want this for my child if nobody else ever knew about it?Who is my child actually showing me that they are?And for all of us:Who are you when nobody is impressed?Who are you when the numbers disappear?Who are you when the title disappears?Who are you when the résumé disappears?Are you living the life you were supposed to live—or the life that is actually yours?Maybe success isn't becoming impressive.Maybe success is becoming yourself.A note from SariThis episode is dedicated to the parents and young people I have the privilege of working with right now.I'm watching parents become more open, young people become more authentic, and families begin to question some of the definitions of success we've inherited.And I find that incredibly hopeful.Thank you for teaching me.Connect with SariSari Stone is a holistic coach, educator, and tutor who works with children, teens, young adults, business leaders, and parents, to help people come back to themselves, navigate change, and live with greater authenticity and alignment.Transform Your Life: Just Count Me In is about the conversations that help us Flow. Evolve. Transform.Facebook-Just Count Me InInstagram- Just Count Me InThank you for joining me!If this episode resonates, please share it with a friend who needs a little inspiration today!