834 - Dan & Andrea: Session One

• Promotion for MyEternalVitality.com and hormone therapy benefits for men and women • Discussion of Andrea's improved health through hormone treatment from Dr. Powers • Explanation of bioidentical testosterone and its effects on energy, libido, and mood • Mention of free consultation and paid blood tests at My Eternal Vitality • Colette joins the show as a guest therapist and neighbor • Colette shares details about her therapy offerings, including couple intensives • Dan and Colette discuss the effectiveness of in-person therapy over telehealth • Telemedicine's role during COVID and its ongoing benefits for access • Dan jokes about doing multiple telehealth sessions simultaneously • Crystal is surprised by Colette's appearance and frustrated by lack of notice • Tom and Dan discuss the tactic of delivering uncomfortable news last minute • Tom claims he uses this method to reduce long-term stress in others • Andrea prefers being informed early to process and accept plans • Dan jokes about controlling decisions for Andrea, including ordering food • Colette comments on Dan's appearance change and his personal challenge • Story of neighbor mistaking Dan for a mailman due to his new look • Daniel and Andrea have been married 15 years and together for 20 • Andrea was much younger when they met, leading to some initial judgment • Andrea was an intern at a radio station when they met, and Daniel was already established • The two met socially through mutual friends and wing house outings • Their relationship started after Daniel drunkenly asked Andrea out • The couple bonded over a shared love of the band Faith No More • On their second date, Andrea blacked out from drinking and Daniel took care of her • Andrea woke up in different clothes at Daniel's house after the blackout • Daniel sold his truck after Andrea puked in it • Mutual friend Scott York helped carry Andrea down stairs during that incident • Andrea was inexperienced and studious at the time they began dating • Andrea was Daniel's second girlfriend and had no previous sexual partners • Their parents knew each other before they were born • Andrea was very independent and emotionally resilient even as a young woman • Andrea's emotional independence made her more attractive to Daniel • Andrea's indifference made Daniel more interested • Daniel admits he creates most of the bad moods in the relationship • Andrea is logical, even-tempered, and avoids stewing in negativity • Daniel tends to dwell and spiral, while Andrea prefers resolving issues quickly • Daniel jokes that their work marriage mirrors their home marriage but with better sex • Andrea prefers to move on from fights, while Daniel tends to circle around topics • Dan admits he rehashes arguments when he feels unresolved emotional pain • Colette identifies Dan's behavior as protective coping rooted in past hurt • Dan acknowledges his coping mechanisms are poor but is becoming more self-aware • Andrea reveals Dan was cheated on in past relationships, influencing his current reactions • Colette explains relational trauma and PTSD can resurface in secure relationships • Dan discusses his lingering anger and fixation on not being taken advantage of • Dan admits he tends to seek revenge and emotional intensity for a chemical high • Andrea questions why Dan amplifies minor issues • Dan compares his focus and emotional lock-in to a dog chasing lizards • Dan shares he prefers to isolate and pout when overwhelmed • Dan reflects on the trade-off of being emotionally sensitive but also hard to control • Colette emphasizes accepting emotional reactions while increasing awareness • Andrea says therapy taught her to not dwell in Dan's emotional "trench" • Dan confirms Andrea leaving him alone in emotional states helps him reflect • Andrea explains their opposing anxiety baselines create relational tension • Colette notes emotional states are contagious and can affect partners deeply ### **Social Media:**   [Website](https://tomanddan.com/) | [Twitter](https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive) | [Facebook](https://facebook.com/amediocretime) | [Instagram](https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive) **Where to Find the Show:**   [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682) | [Google Podcasts](https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2FtZWRpb2NyZXRpbWUvcG9kY2FzdC54bWw) | [TuneIn](https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Mediocre-Time-p364156/) **The Tom & Dan Radio Show on Real Radio 104.1:**   [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990) | [Google Podcasts](https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s) | [TuneIn](https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Corporate-Time-p1038501/) **Exclusive Content:** [Join BDM](https://tomanddan.com/registration) **Merch:** [Shop Tom & Dan](https://tomanddan.myshopify.com/)