86: I Didn’t Do Any of My Sh*t This Week: A Goal-Setting Confessional 07.11.25

This week, we were supposed to record an episode about a totally different topic—but then real life (and a weed whacker) happened. So instead, Carrie and Emily get honest about what it looks like when your beautiful, color-coded goal list gets trampled by end-of-school chaos, family birthdays, two pages of unchecked boxes, and a spontaneous deep-dive into Christian denominational history. (Yes, really.)We talk about:The guilt spiral of not hitting one single weekly goalWhy setting “tiny dumb goals” might be the secret to successThe trauma residue of rigid goal systems (ahem Christian school “offices”)How soft goals and flexibility can actually get us furtherADHD, motherhood, and how hard it is to prioritize play when bills are loomingIf you’ve ever set ambitious intentions only to get steamrolled by life—or if your nervous system clutches its pearls when you try to have fun—this one’s for you.Spoiler: You’re not a failure. You’re a human. And you’re probably doing great.References:85: The Tender Artist’s Goal Toolkit: Building Habits without Crushing Your Soul with Allie Moss 06.27.25 - episode of Honestly, Dear Listener podcast - aired 6/27/25Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy - book by Aundi Kolber