86. Relationship Rollercoaster

What if we are never as happy as we were before having a baby? There are ups and downs in every marriage or relationship. Marisol and Adam discuss their relationship as it stands now and how playing the long game can help get you through the rollercoaster of a relationship. Although Adam is not your "typical" sports fan he draws on a sports analogy for this episode; the idea that a relationship can have a "championship window" and how the foundation of a relationship (or the foundation of a sports team) can impact the ability to have multiple championship windows. While driving in the car, Marisol and Adam have a discussion based around Marisol's question "What if we are never as happy as we were before having a baby?" Which unfolds into an even more personal question for Marisol, "Will I ever be happy again?" Adam and Marisol then break down what their life looked like prior to having the responsibility of a child, when they felt like they could place priority on travel, experience, and adventure. The answer was almost always, yes. Now, that life looks much different. There is so much pressure on parents to not have thoughts like "did we make a mistake?" or "have we had our happiest days" It is hard to let yourself go to that place and acknowledge that those thoughts are real. People are afraid to ask difficult questions out loud, because they are afraid of the potential answer they may find. We must ask those questions because it is acknowledgement that those thoughts are occurring. Adam explains that you can't burry it down. You have to process those emotions and feelings, and work to create a healthier relationship with it, through understanding and empathy, or those feelings will build overtime. Listen in as the couple gets real about their "building season" and the impact that adding a new teammate has had on their family. Want more Reading Aloud Podcast? Check us out at https://readingaloud.captivate.fm (Subscribe, Download, and Review) Follow along on this journey though life on Instagram or facebook at @readingaloudpodcast or send us a message at [email protected] Thanks for listening!