88: Making Everyone Else Happy is the Fastest Way to Feel Miserable About Yourself

There’s one of those quotes out there that says, “Accidentally spent my entire life making sure everyone around me was comfortable, only to realize I never felt comfortable the entire time.”Oh, did you feel that? When I saw it, I did, and I thought of you. Because so many of us are people pleasers. We go out of our way for others, only to realize that it is at the expense of our own happiness.If you felt that quote, if you are a people pleaser, or always putting other's needs first before your own, then this episode is for you. Today, we are going to answer the question… how do you know if you are a people pleaser, and what is the difference between being a people pleaser and just being nice to others?The answer is powerful, it involves pancakes at IHOP… and I think it’s going to surprise you.Together, we unpack:Why do people pleasers sacrifice their happiness for others?11 questions to ask yourself to determine if you are a people pleaser. What is the difference between people-pleasing and genuine kindness?Why and how people pleasing is rooted in trauma.The fawn response is seeking safety through agreeableness.5 ways to break the trap of people pleasing.Mentioned Resources:Book: Complex PTSD – From Surviving to ThrivingEpisode 84: Expectations Will Destroy Your Happiness.Connect with Holly:▶️ GET ON THE PRIORITY LIST TO BECOME A SUSTAINABLE WEIGHT LOSS MACHINE - https://academy.pinkfortitude.com/pl-machine-reg▶️ FREE EMOTIONAL EATING PSYCHOLOGICAL PROFILE - https://pinkfortitude.mykajabi.com/weight-quiz▶️ JOIN THE BREAK EMOTIONAL EATING ACCELERATOR - https://academy.pinkfortitude.com/break-emotional-eating-accelerator▶️ APPLY FOR ELITE-LEVEL PRIVATE COACHING WITH HOLLY - https://wkf.ms/3XtDIKV▶️QUIT SUGAR IN 5 DAYS - https://academy.pinkfortitude.com/register-for-sugar▶️ SUBSCRIBE TO SUBSTACK - https://substack.com/@hollybertone▶️ FOLLOW HOLLY BERTONE ON INSTAGRAM - @holly.bertone If this is your vibe, be sure to hit the follow button where you are listening and also tap those 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ and leave a great review.