89: What Are You Making it Mean About You?

Send us Fan MailOften times when we are triggered and find ourselves emotionally reactive, it's because we are making it mean something about us. For example, maybe your friend didn't receive your experience or follow your advice, and you're making it mean your experience doesn't hold value. Or maybe your partner doesn't want to do the activity you want to do and you're making it mean that they don't care about you or you are no longer compatible. Or maybe someone makes an "ugly face" and you assume it was meant for you and the don't like you. But may it's not about you. Maybe your friend wants to figure things out on her own. Maybe your partner likes different things, and that's ok. Maybe they weren't making a face at you, but smelled something stinky. Maybe it has nothing to do with you.