9- Navigating Conflict in Relationships with David Cooley

What if conflict wasn’t something to fear—but something to work with? In this episode, I’m joined by David Cooley, conflict resolution specialist and creator of the Restorative Relationship Conversation (RRC) model. Together, we explore how attachment styles, nervous system responses, and relational patterns shape the way we move through rupture and repair.David shares his personal journey from working in restorative justice to developing a powerful framework for couples navigating relational pain. We unpack why conflict often feels life-threatening, how childhood wounds resurface in adult intimacy, and what it takes to transform those moments into meaningful growth.Episode Highlights:Why conflict triggers a fight-or-flight response in close relationshipsHow attachment styles replay childhood patterns in adult intimacyThe link between nervous system dysregulation and emotional shutdownHow consent and structure create safety during hard conversationsA step-by-step overview of the RRC modelThe role of mindfulness and somatic awareness in repairing connectionWhy conflict is a profound opportunity for intimacy and growth🔗 Connect with David Cooley:🌐 Website: www.restorativerelationship.com📩 Email: [email protected]💫 Stay Connected:🌿 Follow the show: @elaineclark_📩 Email: [email protected]🎧 Subscribe on Apple, Spotify & iHeartRadio🌐 Explore more at www.elaineclark.ca