9. Too Angry to Be Nice - When Good Girls Get Mad

Ever felt like you’re too angry to be nice — or too scared of anger to let it show at all?Yeah. Us too.In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get honest about our complicated relationships with anger. The kind that’s been labelled “too much”, “too dramatic”, or “not very nice” — especially if you grew up being praised for being the good girl.We talk about what it’s like to finally admit that sometimes you’re not fine, you’re furious — and how learning to make space for anger can actually make you softer, safer, and more self-respecting.This time we talked about:🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): the fear of being seen as “too much”, the shame of expressing anger, and the exhaustion of always trying to be kind.👀 What it looks like in real life: swallowing your feelings, replaying arguments in your head, or exploding after one small thing tips you over the edge.🧠 Why our brains do it: childhood conditioning, trauma, people-pleasing, and the belief that being angry makes us bad.🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: quiet resentment, moral outrage, bottled-up rage, or the physical heat of anger trapped in your chest.🧰 Coping mechanisms: noticing the first flickers before the explosion, journalling, movement, validation, and letting anger be a guide — not a flaw.🌱 How to make peace with it: anger isn’t the enemy; it’s a signal. It tells you what matters and where your boundaries live.Thanks for listening💛💜🩷🩵🧡💬 New episodes every Monday.🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.🧡 CONNECT WITH US🎙️ Podcast socials:→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com👩‍💻 Carly Radford:→ Website: www.carlyradford.com→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:→ Website: www.alicetew.com→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice📩 Email us: [email protected]🗓️ New episodes every MondayThis is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.Disclaimer: This podcast isn’t therapy and isn’t a substitute for professional support. We share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.—--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Keywords: sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, perfectionism podcast, therapy podcast, anxiety podcast, emotional podcast, mental health podcast, deep chat podcast, neurodivergent podcast, autism podcast, adhd podcast, audhd podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast