90. I'm not ok, you're not ok, and that's OK

www.heididawson.com Instagram:  @theheididawson Personal Responsibility List: -My physical health is a priority -My mental health is an equal priority -I nurture the relationships that are most important to me -My home is clean and organized -My finances are in order I wrote a new mantra in my journal and I think I will keep writing it daily until it completely sinks in, you can borrow it if you want as well. I wrote that My life is the way it is because of the decisions I have made. The things I control are the only ones that matter in the long run. You know what the biggest thing I control is? It’s my thoughts. And that goes for you as well. If we start being aware of our thoughts, then we will have more control over our happiness.So the title….I’m not OK, You’re not OK and that’s OK, I wish I had created it but A dear friend of mine this week sent me an article with that title, and I loved it. Sometimes life is going to throw us curve balls. No-one is exempt. Things will be going along great and then bam something happens and we are left wondering what hit us. That’s life. The contrast of the bad makes the good so much better. So, if you are going through a hard time right now, Realize no matter how bad things seem, things will get better. It’s temporary. Just like stormy days don’t last forever, neither do bad times. The contrast of the clouds with the sun, makes the sun so much better! We all experience situations that are challenging. IF you live in this world then you may experience discomfort weekly and maybe daily depending on your nature. But how much of your discomfort is self induced? How often do we relive past hurts? How often do we have arguments in our heads that we never will have in real life? How much are you worrying about things that will never happen? I know I experience this and sometimes it depends on what I’m reading or watching. Something I read can turn a perfectly good day bad and nothing in my environment changed except for my thoughts about what I just read. This reminds me of a story I heard this week. There were two monks that were walking through a forest and they came upon a river, there was a woman standing at the side and asked for help getting across. The first monk was a bit irritated and just kept walking but the second monk picked the woman up, carried her across the river and set her down on the other side safely. The monks then carried on with their journey, but the first monk was obviously upset and so after a couple hours, the second monk asked what was wrong. The monk said, brother, you know we are not supposed to touch a woman and yet you picked her up carried her across the river. The second monk, said brother, I dropped that woman at the side of the river hours ago, you’re still carrying her. You see his thoughts about the woman were unnecessarily weighing him down. How often do we do this to ourselves?