#90 Raw and Real

Today, I interview Gail Kraft, who fought for her life from the very beginning after her mother made an attempt to abort her. Although Gail lived, she never got to form a strong relationship with her mother, because her mom died when Gail was just three years old. From that point, her father treated her like she was a burden, an inconvenient barrier keeping him from winning women over on dates. And so from a very early age, Gail learned to be a people pleaser, hoping to keep the peace and make people like her. She was desperate for love and connection. At age 13, Gail had a confrontation with her father, after which she joined a gang. She and her peers hung out together in various groups and areas throughout downtown Boston where she lived. They lived a lifestyle of risk and danger, but those things made them very protective of each other. At one point, Gail was assaulted by a fellow member who was walking her home, and she just barely avoided being raped. She let the others know what happened, and mysteriously this person was never seen again. At 16, she completely moved out of her father's house and went to live with her brother and his family in the suburbs. The rule was that she was not to stir up any trouble with his wife, and that she was no longer to have any gang affiliations. Gail says that's what saved her. She was living in a safe area and her brother was helping her to set some standards for her life. Fast forwarding to the development of Gail's career, her people-pleasing skills really benefited her. She was a high performer who aimed to impress, and so she did impress people and gain recognition and success. Eventually ending up in a management role, she one day had no choice but to lead in a presentation, and although she was scared, she later realized what a turning point this was for her. She realized that even though it was a job, her words were having an effect on people's lives. That's when everything changed. After many years of hard work and personal development, today Gail helps to empower others to tap into their full potential. She shows them their true uniqueness, guides them to freedom, and teaches them that the life they are seeking is within arm's reach. __________________ Gail Kraft is a keynote speaker, podcaster, Empowerment Master, author of The Empowering Process, and thought leader. She works with clients and runs programs offering various approaches for accessing self-awareness, focus, and emotional balance in order to tap into your natural flow for success. Krafting The Flow Formula is how you gain higher self-awareness, create smarter goals, and lower stress, allowing you to make conscious choices and take control of your life today. Find Gail here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gaillkraft/ https://www.facebook.com/gail.kraft.77 https://twitter.com/buildbravery https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLLXX5hXmeaRPuA_znsplCarsRq5Bs1UdW___________________I'm your podcast host, Dr. Doreen Downing, and I help people find their voice so they can overcome anxiety, be confident, and speak without fear. Get started now on your journey to your authentic voice by downloading my Free 7 Step Guide to Fearless Speaking: https://www.doreen7steps.com.     Support the showI’m Dr. Doreen Downing and I help people find their voice so they can speak without fear. Get the Free 7-Step Guide to Fearless Speaking https://www.doreen7steps.com​.