#90 Still Making Decisions as the Old You? Here’s the Cost

If the decisions you’re making should feel good—but don’t—it might be because they’re coming from a past version of you. This episode reveals how identity misalignment shows up in decision fatigue and what to do about it.You’re not failing — you’ve just outgrown the version of you that’s still deciding.This episode unpacks one of the most overlooked reasons high-capacity humans feel stuck: they’re making decisions from an identity that no longer fits.If you've ever made a choice that looked right on paper — but felt wrong in your body — this is for you.Julie Holly shares a deeply personal reflection, a powerful client transformation, and the story of The Second Mountain author David Brooks to show what happens when identity shifts but our internal operating system doesn’t. You’ll walk away with clarity, language, and a next step — not more pressure to push through.Key Takeaways:Why doing the “right” thing still might not feel rightHow your predictive brain traps you in old decision-making patternsWhat your body is telling you when clarity feels just out of reachThe real reason leadership decisions can feel heavier than they shouldA better way to discern your next yes or no — without guiltToday’s Micro Recalibration:Reflect on a recent choice — did it come from who you are now, or who you were?Team & Leadership Prompt:“What would change if we made decisions based on who we’re becoming — not who we’ve been trained to be?”Use this in your next meeting or team email to build a culture of identity-level alignment. When everyone is clear on who they’re becoming, the collective clarity sharpens.Client Insight:Sometimes, the thing holding you back isn’t fear — it’s an outdated internal title. When one client stopped seeing himself as a junior partner and started embodying the decision-maker he’d become, everything changed. Not only did he make the hard call — he earned trust and respect because it came from a recalibrated identity.Founder Story — David Brooks:Brooks built his success around external approval — but it nearly cost him everything. His turning point came when he stopped making decisions from who he thought he should be, and began honoring who he was becoming.Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you→ Learn about The Recalibration Cohort→ Join the next Friday Recalibration Live experience → Take your listening deeper! Subscribe to The Weekly Recalibration Companion to receive reflections and extensions to each week's podcast episodes.→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights→ Download the Misalignment Audit→ Subscribe to the weekly newsletter→ Books to read  (Tidy categories on Amazon- I've read/listened to each recommended title.)→  One link to all things...