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Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness - Arthur Brooks - #931

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Arthur Brooks is a social scientist, professor at Harvard University, and an author. Can romance and love be decoded? From falling in and out of love to finding “the one,” what does the science say about what makes someone a good partner, best friend, and lifelong companion? Expect to learn if men need marriage more than women do, why women tend to leave bad relationships faster than men, why falling in love makes us do crazy things, what the brain chemistry of love is, if we should be careful about who we let ourselves fall in love with, how you can tell if you’re a compatible romantic partner, but not a compatible best friend, how to overcome contempt and insecurity in a relationship and much more… Timestamps: (00:00) How Podcasts Are Getting People to Learn More (09:26) The Brain Science of Falling in Love (24:52) Should You Marry Your Best Friend? (30:44) How Dopamine Addicts Fall in Love (37:45) Sex Differences in Jealousy & Desire (46:05) Advice for Insecure Overachievers (51:15) How to Make Long-Distance Relationships Successful (55:58) The Key to Staying in Love (01:06:58) The Environmental Security Hypothesis (01:10:13) Approaching Relationships Like a Business Project (01:14:12) Are Men Becoming Sedated & Useless? (01:21:33) Being a Circuit-Breaker as a Parent (01:26:46) The People Who Get Stuck Overthinking Relationships (01:31:38) Overcoming Contempt in Marriage (01:42:03) What Do You Get Your Energy From? (01:54:37) What You Learn When You Turn Anxiety Into Fear (02:01:38) Where to Find Arthur Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get a 20% discount on Nomatic’s amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get $350 off the Pod 4 Ultra at https://eightsleep.com/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberma - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Arthur Brooks is a social scientist, professor at Harvard University, and an author. Can romance and love be decoded? From falling in and out of love to finding “the one,” what does the science say about what makes someone a good partner, best friend, and lifelong companion? Expect to learn if men need marriage more than women do, why women tend to leave bad relationships faster than men, why falling in love makes us do crazy things, what the brain chemistry of love is, if we should be careful about who we let ourselves fall in love with, how you can tell if you’re a compatible romantic partner, but not a compatible best friend, how to overcome contempt and insecurity in a relationship and much more… Timestamps: (00:00) How Podcasts Are Getting People to Learn More (09:26) The Brain Science of Falling in Love (24:52) Should You Marry Your Best Friend? (30:44) How Dopamine Addicts Fall in Love (37:45) Sex Differences in Jealousy & Desire (46:05) Advice for Insecure Overachievers (51:15) How to Make Long-Distance Relationships Successful (55:58) The Key to Staying in Love (01:06:58) The Environmental Security Hypothesis (01:10:13) Approaching Relationships Like a Business Project (01:14:12) Are Men Becoming Sedated & Useless? (01:21:33) Being a Circuit-Breaker as a Parent (01:26:46) The People Who Get Stuck Overthinking Relationships (01:31:38) Overcoming Contempt in Marriage (01:42:03) What Do You Get Your Energy From? (01:54:37) What You Learn When You Turn Anxiety Into Fear (02:01:38) Where to Find Arthur Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get a 20% discount on Nomatic’s amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get $350 off the Pod 4 Ultra at https://eightsleep.com/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberma - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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