943 | You Don’t Have to Carry It All This Season

In today’s episode, Marsha calls out one of the biggest reasons the holiday season feels so damn heavy: you’re carrying way more than what’s actually yours. From impossible expectations to emotional labour to family dynamics that would test a saint, Marsha breaks down why December often feels like a pressure cooker, and how to get out of the cycle of over-responsibility, overwhelm, and burnout.She shares real stories from her early years of marriage, how decades of obligation created resentment, and the game-changing realization that the holidays weren’t draining… her lack of boundaries was. Marsha teaches how to stay regulated even when everyone wants something from you, how your subconscious listens to the words you speak, and how to build a December that feels grounded, present, and doable.If you’ve ever felt like the strong one who must carry everything, or the person who keeps everyone happy at the cost of yourself, this episode is your permission slip to put that sh*t down.Highlights [01:35] Why December feels so heavy and why “carrying it all” is an impossible job[03:12] The backpack metaphor: realizing only 5–10 percent of what you carry is actually yours[05:44] Early marriage stories: driving everywhere, no sleep, and traditions that created burnout[08:01] The truth bomb: the holidays weren’t draining — her lack of boundaries was[10:20] How resentment reveals where boundaries are missing[12:10] The subconscious listens to your words: why “I’m exhausted” becomes your reality[15:14] Breaking the belief that you must do it all for everyone[17:02] Imagining a December that feels grounded instead of chaotic[18:58] Asking for help without guilt and setting realistic expectations[20:47] The difference between numb and unbothered[22:55] The cup and saucer metaphor: giving from overflow, not depletion[25:36] How small daily choices help you show up more present, more grounded, and more youMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterUnbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE. Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HERE